So you meet a new lover and theyāre everything you would ever want: sexy, compassionate, funny, smartā¦ the whole package. Youāre getting along great and you start making out, and youāre like, āWow, this is gonna happen.ā ā and happen, it does. You start touching each other, your shirt comes off, their shirt comes off, next is the bra, then the pants ā and then, you realizeā¦ their dick is HUGE.
Maybe itās long. Maybe itās wide. Even more intimidating – maybe itās both. You have this moment where you pause and think, āThis is full-on porn star dick. I canāt even deal. Like, what the fuck am I supposed to do with all of this?!” How can one possibly take a big dick that size?
First:Ā take a deep breath. Big dicks come on partners of all shapes and sizes. Previous pseudoscience has tried to tie dick size to shoe size or height. and has all been provenĀ false. The only thing science says mayĀ predict dick size is index finger size relative to ring finger size. (Pretty wild, right?) But unless youāre checking out your partner’s index finger size (*cue awkward conversation about why youāre looking at their hands*) youāre not gonna know until you get to that moment when their pants come off. Iām here to tell you, thereās no need to turn and run. With a little bit of knowledge and a few tips, youāll be working that extra-large dick like a pro in no time.
How Can A Big Penis Possibly Fit Inside Me?
Having sex with a big penis doesnāt have to be an acrobatic feat, and doesnāt need to spark fear. There are a number of things you can do to take a big dick comfortably or give a blow job to a well-endowed partner. With the right foreplay, arousal, and relaxation ā plus the right moves, sex positions, and techniques to keep you comfortable ā you can take a big dick with much more comfort and ease.Ā
Remember though, every body is different, and both vaginas and penises come in a variety of sizes.Ā If you are experiencing pain, always stop. Pain is your bodyās cue that there might be an injury ahead ā so itās important to listen to your bodyās signs and not push past your limits. You can always revisit and re-adjust with new techniques in the future! If you’re feeling discomfort, you can pause, slow down, add lube, or go back to foreplay and arousal as your vaginal muscles relax. Let your body warm up naturally at its own pace!
Some folks will remind you that your vagina can literally push out a baby, so it is possible for the vagina to expand to accommodate larger penises. Yet, your body produces hormones to help youā¦ and there are still complications like tears. Every vagina has a different amount of “stretchiness” so to speak, and some partners are just going to be “too big” to fit all the way. It’s important not to push yourself past your limits, and recognize your body’s signs of pain and discomfort. It just might not be the right fit – and that’s okay! There are plenty of other activities you can do besides penetration to find pleasure.
Foreplay to Relax Your Pelvic Floor & Vaginal Muscles
Foreplay is an essential part of arousal, which helps your body prepare for sex. This preparation is especially important when taking a big penis. When youāre aroused and excited, your pelvic muscles and vaginal walls naturally expand – making it easier to accommodate a larger penis.Ā
Spend plenty of time exploring each other’s bodies, trying out different touches and positions. Get creative and let yourself become aroused and relaxed. With smaller penises, you might be able to take it right away, but with a larger penis, it will be painful or straight-up impossible if you try to put an extra large peen in before youāre ready.Ā
First, explore all of your erogenous zones through making out, caressing, rubbing or grinding on one another, mutual masturbation, or even erotic massage. You can also explore oral sex to get warmed up! You might want to use fingers, vibrators, or other sex toys to help your vaginal walls relax, get aroused, and expand.
A vibrator is always a great tool to get you in the mood and warm up your body before sex. There are so many options for you to choose from to fit your and your partnersā needs and desires. Our favorite, and perhaps the most iconic vibrator, is the Magic Wand ā which can help to not only arouse you and get you warmed up, expanding your pelvic floor muscles to accommodate a bigger dick, and can help you reach orgasm during sex (or anytime!)
How to Give a Blow Job on a Big Dick
By the way, youāll also find that oral sex with a big dick might be different from what youāve experienced before. You might not be able to fit their penis in your mouth, which is totally fine. You donāt have to stretch your mouth beyond its limits to try to take a whole penis inside. The tip of the penis (especially if theyāre uncut) is much more sensitive than the shaft, and you can use that to your advantage when giving a blowjob to someone with a bigger dick.
Explore licking up and down the shaft, swirling your tongue around the head, and using your hands (with a lot of spit) to be essentially a mouth surrogate while you work the tip. Oral sex includes way more than penetrating your mouth – so use your hands, lips, and tongue to create an experience that incorporates wet, encompassing or suction sensations without needing to take the whole thing. Donāt worry about deep-throating a big dig or pushing the limits of your gag reflex ā you can absolutely explore and give pleasure in so many other ways.
How to Take a Big Dick Comfortably
Once you feel ready to go for it, make sure you slather up their dick and your vulva with lots and lots of high-quality, water-based lubricant. Focus on the moment, on your partner, or on whatever fantasies, desires, and sensations make you most aroused and excited. If youāre using a vibrator or a certain foreplay technique that feels good ā keep going with it! Try to keep your body aroused with all-over sensation and pleasure, instead of stopping all the pleasure to focus on āwill it fit?ā
Throughout the experience ā make sure youāre communicating openly. Ask your partner to go slowly, check in with you, and to be mindful of your bodyās responses or any sensations of tensing up, grimacing, or wincing – those are all cues from your body to slow down. If it feels a bit tight when itās first inside, ask your partner to stop and hang out there for a second while your body adjusts, keep focusing on making out, clitoral sensation, and whatever is bringing you the most arousal and pleasure, then slowly start going at it again. The goal isnāt to have quick in-and-out thrusting ā you want to warm up and ease in comfortably.
The Best Sex Positions with a Big Penis
There are also some sex positions that are best for big dicks! I highly recommend being on top, as it allows you to control the motion and pace yourself. You might find that other sex positions work better for your body. Side-by-side positions like spooning can be great because neither of you can thrust that far (and you can cuddle at the same time, which releases all those feel-good hormones)!Ā
Some people also find missionary to be most comfortable – you can experiment with opening your legs, curling them into you, or keeping them more closed to find whatās most comfortable. Usually, sex positions from the back tend to be more painful (especially if your partner tends to speed up) but as every body is different, you can experiment to find out what feels best for you!
Be sure to talk to your partner about keeping things slow, and letting them know in the moment how youāre feeling ā whether they should slow down, not go as deep, or focus on other aspects of pleasure while your body adjusts.Ā And weāre serious about the lube!
So, what do you do if youāre still terrified of a big dick?Ā
Take a deep breath, and try to change your thoughts to focus on whatās bringing you the most pleasure. Anxiety never made an orgasm. Know that youāre in total control of the situation. You can set the pace and take your time, thereās no rush and no pressure. Take all the time you need to warm up and feel ready (your body will thank you!)
It can also help to get into an erotic headspace in general. Set the mood with things that turn you on, whether thatās music, soft lighting, or fabrics. It sounds silly, but our minds have a huge impact on our bodyās responses. If slow and sensual isnāt your thing – imagine youāre a sex kitten or a porn star, or put a BDSM twist to it. Imagining what a ādirty slutā you are by taking such a big dick might just be the thing to put your arousal in motion.Ā
There are also times in your cycle when your vaginal walls will be more flexible than others (especially around ovulation) and other times when your muscles will feel tight (especially if you like doing Kegels). During the times of the month when you feel tighter, take it extra slow and easy to give your body the warm-up it needs ā or recognize that it just might not be the right time and the right day, which is totally fine too!
Your pussy is a wonderful pleasure companion that can stretch more than you think it can. Meaning, there are very few penises too big for it – and your relationship isnāt doomed it seems like their penis might not fit. Use your new knowledge wisely, double up on the foreplay and all the pleasures that turn you on, and you might just find that you love how deeply that big dick can penetrate you once youāre aroused and relaxed!
I’m completely sex positive, I agree a lot of people might be able to fit a larger dick in their vagina than they think they can (and that foreplay is under-utilised and leads to a stretchier pelvic floor and a lengthened vagina.) I get that.
But that there is NO penis too big for it is incorrect. When we push babies out, our bodies are releasing so many hormones to allow this that just aren’t released during sex. Even WITH those hormones, a huge amount of women tear their perineum and need stitches. Not even mentioning the vaginal opening has limited stretching compared to the pelvic floor and so can tear more easily. Vaginas are not gonna stretch to baby-size unless they are actually having a baby.
I believed all this about no-penis-too-big until I tried to fit a huge one in me. I used lube, I was on top and went slowly, we tried multiple times in different positions, hours of foreplay – and he tore me so badly I needed stitches, caused inflammation from micro-tears that left me inflamed for 5 weeks. I went to my gynaecologist, my women’s health physio (who deals EXCLUSIVELY with vaginas/pelvic floors) and my practice nurse. They all confirmed – some vaginas are stretchier than others, some penises just won’t fit in some vaginas. It’s just a fact. That huge penis might fit fine in some vaginas, for others it is a no-go zone. They explained about how the baby analogy is wrong as stated above. And that penis I tried to fit in me? It was too big for my vagina. (It was 8 1/2 inches and 7 inch girth.)
I love this website and when this happened to me, I googled everything, and so many articles said “hey any size penis fits in any size vagina” that I felt like I was wrong, like there was something wrong with me. I felt like I wasn’t trying hard enough, and I blamed myself for the significant pain and trauma I went through.
So for anyone who has tried everything suggested: don’t blame yourself. You’re not the one at fault. It’s not because you haven’t tried hard enough. Maybe his penis really is too big for your vagina, and that’s okay. Maybe you can try other forms of sex that aren’t penetrative (or use sex toys for penetration), or maybe you can move on. Just please, please don’t blame yourself.
Thank you so much for sharing your story! It is so important, and your experience is so powerful – and often overlooked. We are so sorry you had to go through all that!
Certainly, some penises might just be too big – and it varies widely depending on person to person. Every one’s body is different, so what works for one person might not work for another.
We would always recommend that if insertion is causing you pain, to stop immediately to prevent any injury. Even with foreplay, relaxation, lubrication, and trying different positions – pain is your body’s cue to stop. We always recommend seeing your doctor if you have any pain, and definitely not pushing yourself past your limits (and include this in the post). You know your body best!
And of course, we agree any pain is not your fault! Every body is different. š
We hope you’re all healed and have a fabulously satisfying sex life here on forward!
i have had as much as 10 inches and thick if your partner takes his time working it in slowly it becomes a very pleasureable time
indeed
This dude is telling me he doesn’t want to make the effort to come out here unless I prove to him I can take a big dick. He’s suggesting I use a cucumber. I’m not going to do it but I just thought that was a little bit relevant. He’s a douche.
I’ve had a few encounters with genuinely big dicks. I think it’s because somehow I attract that kind of guy. I’m petite and it seems like an ego thing for the guy. As long as I can control the depth it’s quite pleasant, in fact a soft pressing against my cervix actually triggers a very powerful orgasm. The worst experience for me is when it’s too thick. I have a tight vagina even when fully aroused. Sex with my ex was great when he could finally get it in but quickies were off limits. His length I could deal with but never got used to his thickness and ultimately it had an impact on our relationship.
Hmmmmm I started bleeding because it was too big. Now I’m anxious to try again
i had a baby 3 years ago and my partner and i have recently split as i wouldnt sleep with him. i tried me best and it was so painful as i had to b cut from front to back wen i had my son as it all was a traumatizing time. since we have split im so afraid to try sleep with a guy im seen as i dread its going to b so bad paibful sore etc anxiety makes me so scared also. š
find a nice man with a small penis every one is different there are small vaginas and small penises for a reason every one is always obsessed with big dicks. The truth is you should be looking for a key to fit your lock not a battering rams LOL its much better to have fun sex with some one who fits you and not have to worry about getting hurt . Society tells us that the only good dick is a big one its a myth you can have more fun with a smaller penis than a larger one
Ms. A,
Let me begin by saying that I love your sex positive attitude and confidence.
As for the big dick topic, I think just as they vary in size, length, girth etc, so do vaginas. I wish there was a way we all could find our perfect fit without being judged for it.
I agree. When I was with a woman who had a very large VJ I barely hit a side. I’m above the norm but I would go limp because lack of Stimulation. I wish it was diff as I love and miss her. If I can tell all one thing if love is found. Anything else, even sex is inconsequential. Try to value love the most I am 50 mm and still think bout Smya.
I’ve had a few encounters with genuinely big dicks. I think it’s because somehow I attract that kind of guy. I’m petite and it seems like an ego thing for the guy. As long as I can control the depth it’s quite pleasant, in fact a soft pressing against my cervix actually triggers a very powerful orgasm. The worst experience for me is when it’s too thick. I have a tight vagina even when fully aroused. Sex with my ex was great when he could finally get it in but quickies were off limits. His length I could deal with but never got used to his thickness and ultimately it had an impact on our relationship.
Thank you for writing this! I will be attempting my first time with a big guy! And Iām a bit nervous / scared / anxious at the same time and a bit worried heās too big!
My guy is about 12 inches and very thick. I saw it and got scared. I mean literally terrified. But weāve been talking and heās willing to be patient and gentle. So, weāre moving forward. I waited a long time to meet a man as loving, considerate, kind and did I say loving? as he is. I donāt want to forfeit this treasure trove of love simply because he is very amply endowed. Iām going to prepare myself to receive him and weāll continue āpracticingā until I can handle him like a pro. Besides, a lot of heavily endowed men realize the importance of oral sex and other foreplay because those things aid them in getting their prize; the nooky!
Please could you help. A gynecologist told me I was a little tight -had tight skin at the base of my vagina but it didn’t need surfer – just manual stretching. I have had problems with this tightness beforewirh larger penises
. Yet I haven’t let tried stretching it as I have been with a smaller partner for a longtime .now I am with a larger one.do you know of finger stretching works?
my boyfriend too has a very large penis, you have to use many lub hihii.
I’m 20 and just lost my virginity and he was huge. One of my fears and why it took so long for me to finally have sex happened. It was car sex and we tried 3 different positions before we quit and found out I was bleeding. Quite a bit. We hung out together for like another hour or so and when I finally got home I was still bleeding some. First off, I know some bleeding is normal for a first time but I don’t think this is and I’m still sore which I suppose is a given but I’ve never had sex before let alone with someone huge. Luckily he’s super understanding and stopped when I said it was too much but I’m so clueless right now. This happened last night and I still have some light bleeding? Any advice at this point would be great, I’m not gonna try to have sex with him again until I’m not sore so that I don’t push myself but I really like this guy and barely understand the basics due to no real education and finding out what I see online. But he’s like 9 inches and until last night I was a virgin so I’m slightly in over my head
Statistics lover here and a skeptic of women claiming to be having sex with dudes with HUGE dicks (>8 inches). I think three possible things are at play here:
1. A 5’0″ lady fucking an (above average) 6″ dick may think that it’s HUGE.
2. A guy exaggerates his dick size or sucks at measuring (inches vs cms?).
3. A bunch of guys are pretending to be women posting about HUGE dicks because they’re insecure about their own penis.
Now, on to the math and facts:
1. Lots of resources out there about penis length percentiles. A penis that is 8 inches is in the >99.99% percentile. Every little bit more in length increases the rarity drastically. This means that there are less than 1 in 100,000 men with a penis of 8 inches or more (or less than 10 per 1,000,000 men).
2. There are approximately 40 million men in the US between the ages of 18 and 35 (presumably what most ladies online are fucking). This means that there are less than 400 fuckable men in the US with a penis of 8 inches or more.
3. Being generous with the numbers, of these 400 men, less than 100 would have a dick of 9 inches or more, and less than 25 would have a dick of 10 inches or more. In the entire US.
In conclusion, I don’t doubt that women think they’re fucking “HUGE” dicks, but the reality is that there just aren’t the numbers of guys with these dicks (>8 inches) to go around. Just grab a tape measurer, and see how big 8-10 inches really is, and you’ll see how improbable something like that existing.
Also, I’m not a cranky dude with a small dick. I’m about 6.5″ erect (above average), and I’m very happy about my size. I think it’s big and wouldn’t want anything larger. And, for what it’s worth, my wife thinks it’s HUGE.
For a very long time I had a problem getting any woman to sleep with me. Iāve only slept with 2 women my entire life. I had no idea whatās big or how big I am. My cock barely fits into a paper towel roll and itās 10 inches insertable.
My wife after having kids donāt even want to look at or even touch it itās so bad and hard all the time Iāve been so frustrated I told my wife if an alien offered me vagina I would take it even if it felt like sandpaper
All the man meat and no where to put it I cannot sell it or advertise it and when I mention Iām packing a tool of monumental pororition most woman think itās a joke and that 10+ inches is a myth and honestly as long as your making an effort to drain the third leg itās matters little how itās done
I want to leave my wife but for what jut to find another woman who even worse then the last bottom line is I never Needed a wife I needed a slut!
Okay, so my ex and I have gotten back together, the only problem is last time, we couldnāt ever really have sex! His penis is bigger then my forearm, heās not going to be back home for a few more months so I would really like to find a way to make it enjoyable for both of us. (It kinda hurt him too before because it was too tight) I definitely took notes from the post but any other advice would be great!
So my opinion is it depends on the girl. I have had up to a 9 inch before but just met a guy I really really like but he is 10 1/2 or so. I have had 2 kids but by c-section and I haven’t ever had anyone bottom out on me before. I’m crossing my fingers that I’ll be able to take it I mean theoretically it’s only an inch or 2 more right? Fingers crossed lol
SMP I would advise get some bigger dildos and get used to a bigger size being in there. The guy I’m talking to was like let me see ur sex toys and I showed him and he said get bigger ones. He said it helps so maybe help u.
And Jonathan don’t give up u don’t need a slut u need an adventurous girl who is up for the challenge.
I have a non functioning micro penis and have always pleasured my wife orally and with fingers. A few years ago we decided to invite our mutual male friend to have sex with her to let her experience penetration. As it turned out he was really big! like 9 inches and thick. My wife was very excited and I slathered her with lube but when he pushed into her about halfway she experienced pain and had torn.She had never had sex with anyone that large before we were married. I started her off with smaller dildos then larger and larger ones until she could take the Jeff Stryker dildo. After a year or so her vagina slowly stretched out to handle even bigger ones. We had our friend over again and wow! She easily took all of him in easily and had huge O’s that made her moan so loudly. So fun for both of us.It just takes patience and time sometimes and it will pay off.
Why is my vagina so shallow my partner hurts me when he’s trying to finish and I just want him off of me.
He wants me to climax but is tired of licking my pussy until he gets anal play.
Bored is what he says and wants to DP me.
I have the same problem as gto. I love my wife dearly but her pussy is too big for my penis. I love having sex with her because her pussy feels so good but when she’s wet a loosened up I barely touch the sides. I usually end up going limp and not being able to cum which disappoints her. My cock is about 6 inches and about 5 inches girth. I’m sure that she also wishes my penis was bigger so I could fill her better and I’m wondering if I should suggest she takes a we’ll endowed lover. I really enjoy seeing my wife in sexual pleasure and enjoying giving her plenty oral a clitoral stimulation. This is why I’m considering asking her if that’s what she wants as I want to know that she’s receiving the pleasure she deserves. When we’ve talked about sex she’s admitted her ex was bigger than me and that she had a one night stand just before she met me with a guy she described as having a monster cock, about 9 inches she thinks. She said it was a bit painful at first but she got used to it and ended up taking it all and the sex was hard. She said he made her squirt multiple times. She also yells at me to fuck her harder, faster deeper during sex, so although she cums a lot I don’t think I’m truly giving her what she wants. I was wondering if these much bigger guys could have stretched her and is considering a more we’ll endowed lover the answer?
I have a big dick. It takes time and lube. Have patience it will work. I usually go down on her till she cums and then lube her up. Ladies you donāt have to take the whole thing. I give her a few inches short and I always cum. I wish I could find a girl to deepthroat me as this is something I am missing. Would like it just once to see how it feels. Lube Lube Lube
These size estimations are largely delusional. Pornstars are 7-8 inches. Yes you see measurements of 10 on video but look close, they are adding more by messing with it. Yet somehow so many people have had 10 inches? Thatās bigger than the biggest of pornstars. I worked in the industry doing sound and a few roles. My dick is 6.3 and 5.25 thick and they told me saying 8 would be perfectly fine and that it was about that anyway. I said no, itās a little over 6 and they told me to just go with it. Lol, what?
The medical way to measure is on top from the pubic bone with a hard ruler or truly tighlltyy pulled tap in close or direct contact, no angling. measure like that and I doubt you ever saw 10. I know you didnt in fact, maybe one of you, maybe.
Lol @ the guys here claiming that women rarely if ever see a penis thatās 8 or 9 inches these dudes must be jealous I definitely believe they are more common than the inter webs will tell you.
Dear Lorrae, Thanks for the knowledge it’s really helpful, as a man with Big Dick I suppose, this helps me how to perform and handle myself with women. I am a big guy 6’5 tall, with a Big body, heavy bones but so much flexible, athletic and good looking guy. My dick is 8″ by length and 5.7″ by girth, I know it’s pretty big and above average but it’s not HUGE as people here describe it and I am happy and thankful with what I got, Never been with a woman, but I am looking forward for it. I believe I will be a great lover coz I do and search everything I should know to be an Alpha male and Good in the Bedroom. Thanks this article was so helpful!
Dear Lorrae, Thanks for the knowledge it’s really helpful, as a man with Big Dick I suppose, this helps me how to perform and handle myself with women. I am a big guy 6’5 tall, with a Big body, heavy bones but so much flexible, athletic and good looking guy. My dick is 8″ by length and 5.7″ by girth, I know it’s pretty big and above average but it’s not HUGE as people here describe it and I am happy and thankful with what I got, Never been with a woman, but I am looking forward for it. I believe I will be a great lover coz I do and search everything I should know to be an Alpha male and Good in the Bedroom. Thanks this article was so helpful!
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I have many problems relating to my size when it comes to ladies. Please do advice, I will give additional information only in personal space. Thank you.
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