Stuck between the guy I lost my virginity to, and the guy I’ve been off and on with since February of 2013. I can’t do this anymore, he’s nine hours away. When I try to tell my “boyfriend” I’m not happy, I get his past thrown into my face because he’s been hurt before. Well news for him, we all have been hurt before, right? Right. But this guy I lost my virginity to has been my friend for many, many years before we did the dirty. And we’ve been friends/FWBs ever since. How do I choose?
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Go with the guy who makes you happy. As much as it sucks, sometimes you have to be selfish and only think about yourself. It’s not your job to keep anyone happy, especially someone who expects you to fix his past. Make yourself happy first and the rest will follow.
I totally agree!!!! You have to be the one that’s happy – and if you’re not happy, it’s not worth sticking around. There’s plenty of guys out there who want to make YOU happy! No sense wasting your time with someone who won’t.
Agreed, do what makes you happy. Don’t listen to him when he throws that shit in your face, you don’t deserve it. If it’s not working out then it’s just not working out and that’s not your fault. You might have lost your virginity to him, but if he was a real friend he wouldn’t be shoving that “I’ve been hurt before” crap in your face, he would listen to your side and respect you.
It sounds like you feel pretty strongly about the boy you lost your virginity to, say lets call him boy #1. I don’t think it is fair that boy #2 is making you feel bad for HIS past. You have no control over that and if you aren’t happy with him then there is just simply nothing you can do about that except handle it in a way that is fair to YOU and him. Even if you stopped hooking up with boy #1 it sounds like you guys have a strong relationship because it started off as a platonic friendship.
I would make this less about which guy to “choose” and more about what exactly it is YOU want. Do you want to be with boy #2? Do you want to be with someone who lives 9 hours away?? Do you feel like you have to be in relationship or that its just too hard to break up?? Obviously, these are all rhetorical questions. Best of luck girl!!! I was in a similar situation not too long ago. Whatever decision you choose will be the right one for you!
Stellar advice!