I want to be in a relationship with my best friend of over a year, but there is a twist…his ex is also my best friend. Technically they never dated but they were fuck buddies and he fell in love with her. She ended up screwing him over and they stopped talking altogether. I love this kid and we have been the closest person in each others lives. He is afraid that a relationship between us will ruin our friendship but I’m willing to jump right in. How do I handle this so everybody is happy?
It’s okay to be selfish! If she hurt him then she has no say in the matter. Do what makes YOU happy. If you know you can make him happy then go for it! After all, she only wanted him as a fuck and it seems she had no intention of dating him. hope it works out!
They were never dating, they were just having sex. Therefore, you’re not breaking girl code! You should talk to her first just so you don’t step on your friend’s toes, but there’s nothing wrong with going after a guy you want to be with if she didn’t date him or even have feelings for him. Embrace being eskimo sisters, and good luck!
From past experience, I’m going to say that you’re probably going to lose your girlfriend. I was in this exact boat, and me and my best friend are now dating happily, but she’s no longer in the picture. If you can handle that, you should go for it! You guys are best friends and you clearly have more than friendly feelings for the boy, you should do something about them. Talk to the girlfriend first, just so you don’t step on her toes, but don’t give her much say because it’s YOUR happiness. Just let her know what’s happening and what’s going to be happening. Good luck!