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Fantasies, Desires, and Porn with Raven Hart

11/24

Spanking, facials, and play parties – oh my! Porn performer and BDSM babe Raven Hart is back to answer your questions about sexual fantasies, exploring your desires, and even joining the porn industry. You don’t want to miss these Q&A’s! If you’ve ever been curious about what it’s like to be a performer… explore BDSM… or if women really like what’s portrayed on screen – this advice series is for you! Check out her answers below… and submit your own questions to Raven Hart at advice@sluttygirlproblems.com to have your question answered next!

Hey there. I’ve been super interested in doing porn, it’s actually on my mind 24/7. The only thing that is holding me back is the fear that certain people will see it (my family, my employer, et cetera). I know that they will eventually find out, and I just don’t want to do this to my family. Talking about it with them also isn’t an option. This makes me really unsure about doing it, but I do feel like it’s something I truly want to do, because it’s always on my mind and the only thing that really has my interest. I really hope you can help me, this is so hard for me!

Dear Potential Pornstar,

Let me just start off by saying kudos to you for wanting to even consider something like this. Now, let me give you some solid, sound advice. Taking the plunge and becoming a porn star is a HUGE decision. You have to assume that everyone you know will see you and find out. So, you must not care what people will think and do what you think is best for you. Will your family come around and be ok with it? That is a gamble each one of us takes when embarking on this career path. On the flip side of things, I personally love my job! It is filled with amazing people, lots of financial opportunities and a lot of fun. But it is hard work, long hours, and not just simply having sex on camera. So, if you are ready to explore this world, your best bet is to contact an agency and see if they are interested in you.

Just make sure you think long and hard (pun intended) about your decision. Here’s some more perspectives from SGP. Good luck!

 

Hey Raven. All those things in porn like titty fucking and facials seem only fun for the guy. Do you get any enjoyment out of that, or is it just for the guys pleasure?

Dear Inquiring Minds Want to Know,

That is a great question! The answer to your question is yes, it’s enjoyable – but let me break it down for you. Sometimes knowing just how much my partner is enjoying it is a huge turn on for me and that brings me pleasure. Titty Fucking does turn me on, especially if I play with my nipples. Facials, on the other hand, are not my favorite place for a guy to cum. I much rather prefer it on my tits or in my mouth. But ultimately, doing something just for your partner’s pleasure is never a bad thing, so long as they return the favor!

 

I’m completely straight, but I’m always thinking about doing sexual stuff with girls and watching lesbian porn. Should I try doing something sexual with a girl?

Dear Bi-Curious,

You are obviously interested, otherwise you wouldn’t be thinking about it! Porn is a great way to find out what turns you on. I think that you should give it a try. You will either love it or hate it, but you won’t know until you experience it. Exploring your sexuality can be rewarding and will help you to understand what gets you hot. So, get out there, have fun, and let your inhibitions down!

 

So, my boyfriend and I very openly talk about sex and things we enjoy. There have been a few times that he has spanked me while making out, and he’s been very comfortable with it. I have always been very turned on being spanked, and have gotten into some BDSM with past partners. I would love to discuss being rougher with my boyfriend. I don’t want him to feel uncomfortable or pressured if he doesn’t get turned on by it the way I do, but want to let him know I want more spanking – more properly and aggressively over his knee – instead of just slapping my behind during sex or make out sessions. How should I bring this up so that he’s comfortable? Thank you so much!

Sincerely, Kinky and Confused.

Dear Kinky and Confused,

Having good communication with your partner can really make or break a relationship, especially when it comes to sex. Making sure that both of you are satisfied and your needs are being met is extremely important. The worst thing a couple can do is to keep their fantasies a secret from each other. So, might I recommend, when you are making out, tell him just how much spanking turns you on and ask him in a sexy way to do it. Once he begins, guide him by letting him know just how you like it. The key here is to do this while you are both hot and bothered. It will make it much easier to express your desires while you are in the moment. I would try this first and see how things go. If that doesn’t work, you might have to just have an open conversation with him. Ultimately, he will most likely want to do what turns you on but you must let him know. He cannot read your mind and may not know just how hot spanking gets you. Good luck!

 

I have always been into BDSM and Dom/sub roles, I just don’t know when to start. I have tried vanilla sex, but I feel like it’s lacking something. I’m about to finish high school and I’m starting my first year of university. Do you think it would be a good time to try BDSM? And if so, how could I meet people who are into BDSM like me? I have heard about bars that are like strictly BDSM bars, but are they really safe to meet someone? I’m afraid if I meet the wrong person, what if they’re just a rapist and are trying to kidnap me or something? How can I tell I’m in a safe environment?

Dear BDSM Curious,

I think there is no right or wrong time to dabble into the realms of BDSM. If you feel like your sex life is lacking something, and you’re ready to try something new safely, then why not explore your ultimate fantasies? One of the best places to meet people who are like-minded are websites such as fetlife.com and alt.com. You can also find local BDSM play parties, clubs and events on those sites – or simply by searching online. I have been to many of these types of venues and have always been safe. I’ve met lots of great kinky people as well. If you are concerned about your safety, bring a friend with you, but a lot of these places are filled with likeminded individuals, who will respect you and your limits. So, give it a shot and I hope you find some naughty fun! Here’s some more on finding, negotiating, and setting limits with your partners.

 

I was going out with this guy for 6 months and he recently broke up with me. I need advice about how to get over this. I still love him. He said he wasn’t happy anymore and he said his feelings kinda just slipped away. I don’t know what to do. It was so unexpected. I’ve never had a break up before even though I’m 19. I’m not one of those people that have guys lining up, and I thought I had a real chance at happiness. I’m just having a really hard time getting over him. I’ve been crying non-stop, looking at pictures of him, and listening to our song.

I desperately need advice. Please help.

Hi there Hopelessly Devoted to Love,

Breakups can be very hard to deal with, especially in the moment. But, as they say, time heals all wounds and you will get over him. You are so young, with a long life ahead of you, and many more guys to follow. You only think you don’t have guys lined up, because your heart is not open to it. The best thing you can do is allow yourself to heal and get out and have fun with friends. Eventually, you will feel ready to date again, and you will find someone else once your heart is open again. While you’re working through it, here’s our 10 Steps to Get Over a Breakup and 8 Things To Do Instead of Thinking About Your Ex. Good luck!

 

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missravenhart // Author

Raven Hart is the busty, sophisticated MILF next door you’ve always been fiending for. Despite her demure appearance, she’s insatiable and loves getting down and dirty. The raven-haired seductress with grey eyes is an exotic mix of Spanish, Portuguese and Eastern European and hails from the East Coast. Raven always worked in the sex industry in one capacity or another. Before making the leap to porn star, she was a professional dominatrix, exotic dancer, and webcam model. And, she always looks good doing it, since she’s also a makeup artist. With less than six months in adult, she’s on her way to a takeover and has worked with some of the biggest studios including Brazzers, Jules Jordan, Evil Angel, Mile High Media, Reality Kings, Devil’s Films, and Cherry Pimps. In 2017, she scored the cover of May/June issue of Kink~E Magazine. Follow me on Twitter and instagram @missravenhart

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