Dear Man Whore,
First, lemme say I’m new to this whole experimental sex stage in life. I need a little bit of advice on some things. I really just need someone to talk to about it all I guess, but I need someone who can be open minded.
So first, BLOWJOBS. I get really nauseous just seeing cum. Looking at it, smelling it, anything. However… I’m constantly being asked by my boyfriend to swallow. I need to know what I can do to fix this.
Maybe there isn’t a way to fix it. Maybe I’m weird and that will forever affect mine and his sex life.
– Nauseous About Cum
Dear Nauseous About Cum,
First of all, lets address you calling yourself weird for being repulsed by cum.
You’re not weird. In a world where people enjoy sex using balloons as props and humping while dressed as clowns, there is really no such thing as “weird”. You like what you like, and you don’t like what you don’t.
That being said, here’s my advice – give it the ol’ college try and swallow the next time. If you hate it, at least you know you gave it your best shot, and it’s definitely not for you. Also, your boyfriend will be super appreciative that tried something he liked just to please him.
Editors note: Plus, swallowing eliminates the “looking at it” and “smelling it” part that grosses you out. You could also encourage your partner to have a healthier diet (eat more fruits and vegetables, and avoid processed food, coffee, and dairy) so it tastes and smells better.
If he gets upset with you because it’s just not your thing, then he’s a fuckboy and you should leave his lame ass. No one should want to do something sexually that their partner hates. He should respect your boundaries, preferences, and decisions.
So, this is a win-win scenario for you. Either you find out that swallowing cum isn’t as bad as you thought, or you find out definitively that you hate that shit. Oh, and you also get to test out your boyfriend’s manhood and see just how selfless of a lover he is.
In summary, I think the “try everything once” mantra is a good one to stick to, but never EVER judge yourself when you find out something does or doesn’t work for you. Sexual preference is intensely personal, and no one but you can decide what makes you tick. And as long as you are open and willing to talk about that with your partner and try new things, your sex life will continue to grow and blossom as you do.
Your non-judgmental man-whore,
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