Dear Madam,

I am a 57 year old female lifestyle submissive who is currently seeking to be collared in a live in LTR with a Master and/or Mistress. I have been into the scene for a few years now and I have had some memorable sessions with both female and male dominants. I consider myself to be bisexual. 

I also have a 39 year old son, my only child, who is likewise into BDSM. He too is submissive and has previously served a dominant female. He has only been into the lifestyle for about a year or so (a late bloomer!) and he considers himself to be bi curious. He has never been married and he does not have any kids.

We both recently discussed the idea of seeking out the same Master and/or Mistress for a LTR 24/7 live in arrangement. We are both willing and able to relocate if necessary. We are very close and live together currently.

We spend a great deal of our free time together and frequently see movies and go out shopping together. We tell each other basically everything. We both really want to commit to a Master and/or Mistress for a LTR 24/7 live in relationship, but we do not wish to be potentially separated by such an arrangement, which is why we are considering this idea. 

Could you please tell me if you would have any advise or wisdom for us as we peruse this goal? Have you ever come across any lifestyle submissives who are closely related by blood and servicing the same dominant(s)? While we are very close and have discussed our respective BDSM lifestyles in the past, we have never witnessed each other in such scenarios…

PS: Please do not disclose my email address if you publish my inquiry on your web site.

Thank you! 

M

 

Hi M,

Thank you so much for writing in. Please note that we will never share private information on this site and we take our readers’ privacy very seriously. We are grateful that you have chosen to write in to our site!

First off, this is a very unique situation and not one that I (nor my kinky friends) have encountered before. In a situation like this, you must be careful because many players may associate this request as bordering on incest (or even define it as such). This can then make finding a Master/Mistress difficult because many of them draw hard limits on incest and incestual relationships. Be aware and prepared that this might be a response commonly given to your query in the BDSM world. Ask yourselves if you would be open to a LTR 24/7 live-in relationship with separate Doms/Dommes, but in the same city/area.

Another thing – you both need to seriously consider whether you will be able to get off in the same types of play scenarios. Are you okay with seeing your flesh and blood “hurt”, even if it is in play? You say that you have talked about your various BDSM relationships, but have never witnessed each other in them… Are you ready to add this level to your relationship?

If you’ve already asked and answered these questions and both feel open to an arrangement of this kind, then communication and boundaries are KEY to have between both you and your son, as well as between the two of you and your respective Dom/Domme(s). 

As you start outreaching to potential Master/Mistress candidates, be open with one another about what you are both respectively looking for in a potential partner. Though you are close, it is possible that you may have slightly differing needs and that it’s okay! This is particularly important if you are interested in engaging in menage-a-trois types of scenarios.

Once you have selected a candidate that is open to the situation and one that appeals to both you and your son, make sure that communication continues to stay open and that all three (or more) or you are willing to stay flexible with the arrangement as it grows into its ultimate sexual potential.

Happy Playing!

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