I don’t know about you, but for as long as I can remember everyone has asked me “What do you want to do when you grow up?” Well I am fucking grown up and I still have no idea what I want to do – Are you happy now Grandma?

Some people have it all figured out by the time they’re 12, and they go out and make that shit happen. But a lot of us really don’t know what our careers and lifestyles are going to end up being, or you think you know and suddenly it hits you; you have no idea what you’re doing with your life. This is what I have come to refer to as a “Quarter-Life Crisis”. And despite what my family believes, it is a very real thing.

Do not despair though! It happens to tons of us, and just because you aren’t currently sure of yourself, doesn’t mean you can’t and won’t be successful. Here are some of the best things you can do to sort out your ideas and discover what will make you happiest in the long run.

1. Take a Myers Briggs Personality Test

This personality test assesses four major aspects of your personality (take it here):

E/I- Do you focus more on the outer world, or your inner world?

S/N- Do you focus on basic information or the meaning behind it?

T/F- In decision making are you logical, or do you think about the situation?

J/P- Do you prefer to make concrete decisions or to go with the flow?

It’s super fun, because it gives you some more insight into yourself (plus the celebrities who fall under the same personality type as you), and it’s very helpful in allowing you to analyze yourself a little more. Once you know your personality type, most websites will give you basic career ideas, which might open up possibilities you hadn’t considered before.

2. Assess Your Values

Everyone has a set of values that help to shape them. Whether it’s a faith, morality principle, political affiliation, or random passion, there are things that are important to you. Make a list of these things that you live and base your standards on, now find a career/life situation that encompasses most of them.

In order to find the right path for yourself, you have to discover what you really want out of a perfect job. Once you figure that out, you can find one that fits your criteria.

3. Talk to Your Mom

Your mom knows best, right? Well… She at least knows you best. Opening up about your indecision to her will comfort you. Maybe you aren’t close to your mom, you can find someone else who knows you well and supports you. Talk to them! The input of others helps, and venting releases anxiety.

There’s a saying my high school sports team used to say, “Ya know what helps? Bitching,” and it’s the truth. Gaining someone else’s opinion will relieve the intensity of this life crisis and probably give you some more ideas about where you’re going to end up. And even if they can’t tell you what to do with the rest of your life they may give you the insight you need to get through this. For example, this is my crisis-handling advice:

4. Make a Dream Board

Yes, yes, I know it’s cheesy, but who cares? Crafts are fun! Take a piece of poster board, some glitter, and markers, and go crazy. Putting down words, quotes, and pictures that appeal to you can improve your mental organization. You can also add a little part to it labeled “Goals” and then put sticky notes under it. Remove them as you achieve each one! Whether your dream is to run your own company, save the lemurs, just get out of bed, or achieve that perfect eyeliner wing, you can do it! Having a constant visual reminder will motivate your ambitions and give you a reason to keep going as you figure yourself out. Believe in the boss-ass bitch that you are and get to glueing!

Create even more inspiration with this bullet journal kit!

5. Give Yourself Time to Think

After you have a rough idea of what you truly want to do, think on it. Make sure that you’ve researched everything from career possibilities, salaries, job growth, and most importantly how this job will impact your happiness. If you believe that you’ve found what you want to do give it time, you don’t want a complete 180° in your lifestyle if you aren’t sure of it. This isn’t a breakup hairstyle that’ll grow out if you don’t like it. Depending on your decision, the opportunities you’ve been given don’t always come back. Not to say that you should be discouraged to take a risk. Just be sure to give it the necessary forethought!

It isn’t easy to ask yourself hard questions, make decisions, and keep your sanity – especially when it feels like your world is collapsing around you. But fear not! At some point in our twenties, we all find ourselves in a quarter-life crisis, so you are not alone. The most important thing to remember when deciding on a lifestyle is your happiness. Almost a fourth of your life is spent working. Remember that money will always come and go, and there are thousands of opportunities in any field out there, so make sure you like what you do!