It can be very frustrating when you have a higher sex drive than your partner does. While you think you may be the only person to ever experience this, it’s actually quite common. Most relationships at least go through phases where one person wants sex more than the other. If you’re the partner experiencing a higher sex drive and you just can’t seem to find common grounds, don’t surrender your sex drive yet. There are several things you can do in order to find balance in your sex lives. Your partner might be sufficient with having sex once or twice a week but you might need the release five or seven times a week. If you find yourself in this situation, you don’t have to dispose of them just yet. Give the relationship a chance and try these tips below for guaranteed success.
Masturbation
If you notice that you seem to need a sexual release more often than your partner does, try masturbation. While masturbation isn’t sex with your partner, you can still experience sexual pleasure by yourself. Masturbation isn’t better or worse than having sex with your partner, it’s just a different experience. Masturbation can provide you with the sexual release you need without having to wear your partner out by constantly demanding sex from them. If your partner leaves before you do in the morning, get out your trusty vibe and enjoy sexual pleasure solo. You might also lock the door when you take a bath at night and bring your waterproof vibe along with you. Who knows, maybe when your partner hears your soft moans through the door, they might decide to join you in your endeavors.
Editor’s note: In some relationships, it might be important to talk about masturbation before you indulge. Your partner might feel insecure about it, or consider it cheating. (In our opinion, masturbation is not cheating, but it might be worth bringing up to your partner.)
Try Something New
It’s always a possibility that your partner’s sex drive has decreased because things are too consistent. If your partner knows exactly what’s going to happen when you climb under the sheets, it takes the excitement away. Try to spark your partner’s interest with sex again by trying something new.
Trying something new to spark their interest may be just what you’re looking for to get your partner back on your level. There are limitless possibilities when it comes to opening up new doors in the bedroom. For one, open up the door to the bedroom and try having sex anywhere else in your home. Sometimes a simple change of scenery can be an exciting way to change things up. The next time you’re eating dinner at the table, you’re both going to remember what you did there last. This could be enough excitement to guarantee another love session. Other options for trying something new include:
- Sexting during the day
- A blow job before dinner
- Watching porn together
- Invest in and enjoy a new sex toy together
Communicate
It’s very important to remember that when you’re having difficulties, even if one-sided, you communicate. Even though these difficulties may be screaming in your head, your partner may be clueless. You’d like your partner to communicate with you if they’re feeling uneasy. The same goes for you – you can’t blame your partner for not knowing what you’re experiencing if you don’t tell them.
If you feel like you need more sex, have a private and adult conversation about it. Tell your partner your needs and while you’re at it, ask if they have any you need to know about. Your needs may be screaming so loud in your head that you may not notice your partner is having difficulties too. Find common ground together so that both of your needs are being met. If your partner needs more sleep and you need more sex, try climbing into bed a little earlier to make time for your needs and allow enough time for your partner to get the sleep they’re needing too.
While having different sex drives can be frustrating, it can also be very easy to handle. Communication plays a big role in any relationship, whether that relationship is ysex-only or more committed. There are also many things you can do to increase your partners’ sex drive.
Always communicate with your partner but also realize that there are ways to grasp your sexual desires that you may not be trying now. Trying new things in the bedroom can be enough excitement to raise your partner’s sex drive. Also, don’t be hesitant to masturbate when you’re alone to give yourself the release you need more often. There’s no shame in taking care of yourself and there’s no shame in needing the release more often than any other person. Whatever you decide to do, don’t try to lower your sex drive because there’s nothing wrong with the way it is now. Enjoy and invest in your orgasms and your sex drive by shopping for your favorite sex toys for those moments when you’re riding solo.
Stay slutty!
