Being that we are a generation that hinges on selfies, every woman should know their angles to acquire a post worthy pic. Your phone should always be up above, facing down, you’re looking up (to avoid the dreaded double chin shadow) and with your head tilted just a little bit so that the light can shine down on your cheekbone to let it shimmer. Unfortunately, the cowgirl position is the antithesis of what a “good angle” stands for, and sometimes we wish we could just feel a little sexier.
Shadows hit in all of the wrong places, making it look like you have a triple chin, and more susceptible to exposing that booger in your left nostril that you totally forgot about. So how in the fuck can we feel sexier on top?! No need to panic, we’re going to make the cowgirl position from something that’s feared to a position that makes you feel empowered. We want you to climb on that dick with pride and ride it like you own it – not cower thinking about the terrible angles and wondering if your grinding is too robotic.
First thing’s first, you have to own your shit, and even if you aren’t completely comfortable – fake it until you make it. If you keep telling yourself that you look fucking incredible from that angle and that you can work the pole, you’re going to eventually believe it. Being confident while you’re on top changes the energy and your partner will feed off of it. Get completely into it; don’t let your thoughts or insecurities consume you while you’re riding it. Your partner picked your fine ass to have sex with, believe me, they are not even thinking about the lighting in the room or your posture while you’re grinding, all they’re worried about is trying to hold their load until you cum first. You should always exude confidence in the bedroom – period. IN LIFE. Why not believe in yourself and own every move you make? Confidence changes the way people see you, and more importantly, how you see yourself.
Now that you’re one confident bitch, here are some technique tips to help show that off. First, NEVER break eye contact. Unless of course your (or their) eyes are rolling in the back of your head. You will feel more connected to your partner, leaving you both no choice but to be completely into it and lost in the moment. Which is exactly how sex should be. Next, while your back is arched riding it, play with your tits, or grab their hands and have them join in. Drawing attention to your chest will bring more sensation to your nipples and bring less attention away from other areas you’re uncomfortable with at that angle. Seriously though, who can resist an intense nipple rub mid orgasm? Own your body, if your partner can see that your love yourself, nothing else is sexier.
When in Doubt
Watch porn. I’m completely serious. Porn has taught me to give my partner the sloppiest head (which we watched at his request). Ask your partner what they like, and if you’re both comfortable with it, have them show you what they either like or have been fantasizing about. Open lines of communication leave little room for error while you’re on top. When you climb up there and know exactly what you need to do and HOW to do it, you’ll feel like one sexy little slut. Find your rhythm, play off of your partners cues, and do what feels good. You can never go wrong if you follow all three.
Sex is a constant learning experience. Every session, every partner, and every position are dynamic. Obviously the first time won’t be your best, but practice makes perfect. And who knows, you may just surprise yourself.