Group sex isn’t for everyone, but it can certainly open some kinky new doors for those who are down to experiment and play. Though taboo in nature, breaking all of the rules is part of what makes the experience so exhilarating. Imagine a bedroom with no rules or boundaries (except those set by the participants) and five other naked people. It gets weird. And sometimes even awkward. But coming from someone who knows – all of these feelings, the lust, the strangeness, and the freedom are what make an orgy such a uniquely unforgettable experience. Orgies can be tricky, but if you’re ready to try a new erotic fucking platform that can take your sex life to the next level, read on for advice from the pro!

Getting Started

But before you jump in bed with six of your best friends, let’s take a look at what a newbie should expect.

In my experience, orgies are typically a spontaneous activity that takes place in the wee, drunken hours of the night when everyone is so fucked up that no one will remember exactly how it started in the morning. Though typically not premeditated, there are signs that can help you to tell if your cuddle puddle is about to get sexual. It usually starts in a subtle manner with a bunch of people just chilling behind someone’s locked door. You’ll probably know a person or two in the room, but probably not everyone. Everyone’s laying on top of everyone else, and people are having those weirdly deep bonding conversations that only happen after 3:00 AM. If the lights are not already dim, the sexual crusader of the crew will likely dim them, which is a signal to anyone who’s actually paying attention that things are about to get funky.

The spark to this entire processes occurs when the first two start to make out. It’s normal, no big. Until the guy is rubbing the thigh of the girl to his left, whom he is not currently locking lips with. Pretty soon there are three people kissing and touching each other, which is basically an irresistible invitation to everyone else in the room to start getting it on.

Keep in mind that every orgy will progress differently. If there aren’t that many people involved, it’s more likely that all participants be in close proximity to each other, pleasuring each other simultaneously. If the group is larger, there’s a higher possibility that people will break off into groups of two or three. Pairs can form in either a big or small orgy, but are usually side by side and will switch partners frequently. As I said before, it’s kind of a free for all. People are going to do what they feel like doing in that moment, and because orgies ARE spontaneous in nature, you can’t pin down exactly what’s going to happen.

As far as planned orgies go, I personally have never been part of an orgy that was solidly planned in advance. It’s far more common to hear of spur-of-the-moment orgies. Maybe a few people talked about it earlier in the night, but needed to find a few more participants. Or maybe a friend was really curious, and asked if you’d help nonchalantly try to pull it together. Though I am absolutely sure that it happens in some circles, in my experience, I’ve never gotten a text a week in advance to ask if I’d be interested in joining an orgy on Thursday.

If it’s your first time, its well worth it to consider entering this situation with a partner who will leave with you if you feel uncomfortable, or help you relax and enjoy the experience. And I don’t mean the guy you met downstairs an hour ago, I mean one of the few men that you actually trust.People tend to break off into pairs at various points and it’s nice to know you’re not alone.This typically works best when the orgy is at least semi planned. If you’ve discussed this possibility before, when the opportunity arises, you can grab your partner in crime. If it’s your first time and the situation is completely unplanned but you feel comfortable with the people around you, then a partner is certainly not necessary, just more of a comfort tool for the nervous.

Getting Comfortable

If you’ve never been in an orgy before, it’s inevitably a little awkward at first. The key is to relax, experiment and just let things happen because before you know it, you’ll be having a blast. Orgies are supposed to be fun, so don’t let anxiety or stress about what’s happening weigh you down. You have to leave all expectations and judgments at the door, and live the experience. This is the perfect place to experiment and try the things you’ve always been curious about. Always wanted to eat a girl out? Now’s the time to give it a try (with the guidance of all of the gentlemen in the room of course). Curious why guys like to play with titties so much? Give hers a squeeze. Don’t want to touch the other girl? Let the boys worship your body together instead.

If you’re entering an orgy with a significant other, its important to talk about boundaries before hand. Tell him exactly what you are and aren’t comfortable with, and ask him the same. Is sex okay, but not kissing? Are you fine with kissing, hand jobs, and oral – but no penetration? Whatever it is, discuss it before you’re in the heat of the moment. Any person who really cares about you will respect your wishes, not push your boundaries, and be happy that you’re willing to share this experience with them. It’s perfectly okay to tell your boy that you don’t want him to fuck anyone else, but that you’re okay with everything else (or whatever else your thoughts may be).

As far as personal boundaries go, there is no shame in announcing early on that you’re just not into girls, or that you’re down to play, but don’t do anal. If the orgy is planned and you know the people involved, you can tell them before hand what you are and aren’t game for. If that feels a little awkward, or you don’t know the people, you can wait until things start getting a little sexual, and then make your rules clear. Whether you bring it up in advance, or casually while you’re getting it on, stick to your preferences.

No one should ever feel pressured to do something that they don’t want to. It is your body, and no one can tell you what to do with it. In sharing your body with all of these people, you are giving them a gift. If anyone dares be disrespectful, take that gift away and leave. There’s a difference between experimenting consensually, versus doing something that you don’t want to because you feel pressured. In an orgy, you’ve got to follow your own rules.

Don’t Be The Jealous Bitch

Orgies are meant to be an exhilarating, open experience full of good vibes and good people. Nothing ruins the mood faster than having a jealous bitch in the crew.

Sometimes, it’s that super competitive girl moaning at the top of her lungs and screaming. Everybody knows she’s faking it. And worse, if a girl is acting completely ridiculous, people are probably going to talk about it later. It does not look good to be the girl trying to one up everyone else. If you ever find yourself in a situation with the competitive bitch, the best thing you can do is ignore her. Which might be hard when she’s grinding up on you and whipping her hair around while watching the guys out of the corner of her eye. She is an attention whore, and will do whatever it takes to make sure all eyes are on her. Just keep in mind that it’s not always a good thing, and don’t stoop to her level by joining the competition.

While some girls will compete for anyone and everyones attention, you occasionally run into the jealous bitch who’s entire goal is to take the guy who’s fucking you away from you and make you watch. Why? Because she’s mean. Your guy might even try to ignore her, but a girl like this will find a way to slide in and secure him. In this kind of scenario, your best bet is to not let her get to you. You can stick around as a third if you want, or go another coupling and (respectfully) insert yourself into the fun elsewhere. If you’re both really set on not being with this gal, respectfully decline her advances and move elsewhere.

A good way to avoid jealous feelings in general is not to engage in sexual activities with your current boy’s ex, your ex, your ex’s partner, or anyone who you know that might get competitive. It’s just not worth it. You don’t want to make yourself crazy, or make anyone else crazy, because you’re all supposed to be having a fun time together. Basically, if you take anything away from this, just please please please PLEASE DON’T BE THE JEALOUS OR COMPETITIVE BITCH! Because if you are, everyone will hate you for ruining a good time with your ego. Besides, we all know that you didn’t actually cum twelve times.

If you do end up in a situation where you’re starting to feel jealous, just try to focus on where you are and what you’re doing in the moment. Yes, maybe he’s with someone else, but so are you and that doesn’t mean you can’t have a good time. If you’re enjoying your time with your current partner, you can certainly show it without going over board. It’s okay to moan in pleasure, or grab his hair. How would you show a guy that you were enjoying the sex in a bedroom? You shouldn’t do any more or less then you would in a private situation. If you’re not enjoying yourself, don’t be afraid to migrate to a different part of the room with different people. An orgy is about being with a lot of people, and he’ll understand that.

Orgies are kind of like learning to ride a bike, at first it’s a little scary, but then you’re having so much fun that you forget. Yes it will be awkward at times, but it will also be some of the most intense, freeing sex you’ve ever experienced. So be brave and keep the positive vibes alive, and whatever your reasoning, go, have fun, and enjoy the cuddle puddle.