A set of beliefs and promises – to ourselves, each other, and the world.

Sex is Natural

I recognize that sexuality is a normal, natural, and enjoyable part of life. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having and loving sex. Having sex does not make me impure, immoral, or improper. It makes me someone who has sex.

I Am Open

Talking about sex is the first step to having safe, consensual, and pleasurable sex. I will express myself, my needs, my desires, and my boundaries. My orgasm is important. I will not fake it, and I will speak up and get the pleasure I deserve. I will feel free to discuss sex, sexuality, and my preferences openly, honestly, and without shame.

I Have Choice

I am in control of my partner choice and sexual expression. My body is mine to use however I choose. It is my choice when, where, how, and with whom I will have sex. My body is my temple. I can choose to make it a hedonistic one.

I Have Respect

I respect myself, and I demand to be treated with respect. I will not tolerate anyone who disrespects, pushes, demeans, pressures, or bullies me. I will not tolerate those who disrespect my body and boundaries. I will not feel pressure from anyone, and will stay true to my values, beliefs, and choices.

I Practice Self Care

I will take the time to recover and heal when I am hurt, and will seek out help and support when I need it.

I Am Safe

I recognize the risks associated with sex, and will take steps to protect myself. I will use birth control or contraceptives if that is the right choice for me, or be aware of my fertility signs with alternative methods and careful tracking – at my best discretion, for what is right for me and my body. I will use barrier methods to reduce the risk of STIs, HPV, and HIV. I will be safe and ensure that my partner is safe every time.

I Have Self Esteem

I recognize that self-esteem and self-worth come from within. I will always love and respect myself. I will never let anyone take my value away from me or define my worth for me. I will stay true to myself. I turn to myself for validation. I am a sexual being, but I am not defined by my sexuality.

I Am Righteous

I will speak up in the face of sexism, racism, homophobia, and all injustice. I will stand up for myself when I am wronged. I will not be held to double standards, shame, or judgement. I believe that women who enjoy sex should not be labeled, insulted, embarrassed, or degraded. I will not engage in slut shaming, and instead, will stand up against it. I recognize the need for change, and will stand up for women’s rights and equality for all. I will speak up against rape, sexual assault, and other forms of violence against women. I will demand that my voice is heard.

I Love My Body

I recognize that every body is beautiful, no matter the shape, size, color, or other physical property. I will love my body, and the bodies of those around me.

I Embrace Life

I will live life to the fullest, learn from my mistakes, and look back without regrets.


Partially Inspired by Soraya Chemaly’s “A Slut Manifesto”, a wonderful explanation of and stance against Slut Shaming.