Some of you have probably wondered what BDSM stands for, to answer that question, BDSM traditionally stands for bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism (though in popular culture, the D and S sometimes stand for dominance or submission instead).
There are several types of BDSM relationships. One such relationship is DDlg, which stands for Daddy Dominant little girl. DDlg has traces of BDSM, but is not hardcore BDSM. In DDlg there is usually age play involved. Daddy Dominants are usually nicer and more respectful. Another type of relationship is a Dom/sub relationship and depending on the skill of the Dom, and their style, it could fall under hardcore BDSM. There also are Master/slave relationships. Like Dom/sub relationships, it depends on the skill and style of the Master, but, Master/slave is usually a hardcore form of BDSM.
I am currently in a BDSM DDlg relationship with my fiance. I wanted to give up control, but I need to be able to trust the person and I need to make sure that that person understands me. My Daddy Dom is one of the best Dominants I have ever had. He knows what I need and he knows how we need to format rules. Work and school take top priority. For example, we have a rule where I have to turn in all my homework on time.
Our DDlg relationship includes age play. My little age is around 11 or 12. I love my stuffed animals, I am not afraid to admit that. We have a entire bed of stuffed animals. I also like to color and have game nights with my daddy. We play cards, Monopoly, Connect Four, Trouble, and Sorry. I have a whole coloring bin and game bin. I love cuddle time as well – cuddle time is honestly my favorite time.
Being in this relationship I am in with my fiance, I have grown up and learned so much. There are things I should have learned years ago that my fiance/daddy has now taught me. I feel safe and secure, he is so supportive of me and what I want to do with my life, and is willing to do anything to help me get there. I honestly have no idea what I would do without him. He is my rock and he helped me when I was going through tough times.
During my first year of college, I spent fall break at his house and a week later I ended up moving in with him because things got really rough at home. I needed a place where I could do my school work and focus on my physical and mental health, because I was really struggling at home. I moved in and kinda just let things fall into place and have been so much happier. We also have a blast experimenting with things in the bedroom! We hardly ever do anything vanilla, unless it’s one of those days where we’re both worn out and exhausted.
For those of you wanting a submissive role in a BDSM relationship, my advice is that you do it with someone you know and feel safe with. If you don’t feel safe, BDSM (like any kind of relationship) can soon become very toxic and ultimately fail. Always make sure you feel safe and that you consent to everything in the relationship. In a BDSM relationship, you should always work together with your Dominant to make the rules. If something seems sketchy – back out!
My fiance and I sketch out our rules and punishments every few months, to make sure they still fit for our lifestyle and that we both still agree on everything. Be sure to find someone who you believe is a safe person and that you trust completely. Regularly go over your rules with your Dominant, and make sure you agree with what you’ve decided on.
Being in this kind of a relationship is definitely fun, but you have to be safe. I really encourage this kind of relationship to those who find a vanilla lifestyle boring, like being able to play and have fun, and are very open minded to learning new things from a Dominant. I love being a little and getting the attention my Dominant gives me!
