Not to brag, (actually yes, to brag) the blow jobs I give have been called anything from, “magnificent” to “marriage worthy.” So, I fancy myself an expert and love the chance to impress yet another unsuspecting soul. While I enjoy the murmured praise I get and assurance that there will be GOOD locker room talk of me, I wouldn’t say that the actual act of deep throating a penis is fun…except for short periods of time. Essentially, it’s appealing to the penis haver because they have a warm wet caress around their phallic object and appealing for the other because it gives them pleasure to pleasure someone.

Deep-throating is really hard, I will not dispute that. Most people are born with a gag reflex and shoving things down our throats is not a very practical daily skill but, it’s a good one to have in your blowjob toolbox. Knowing the general fear and anxiety that comes with not having mastered this skill, I put together some tips (coincidentally, while at lunch at BJ’s Restaurant) so that whenever a phallic object goes down your throat, it won’t bring anything back up with it!

How is deepthroating different from blow job giving? Well, effectively, it’s not. It’s essentially just deeper and more intense blowjob giving. Deepthroating is more of a “party trick” than a practical skill that translates to use at the office. Deepthroating is like the icing in a slice of cake. At first you might get a forkful of icing, but in the end, you’re mostly left with cake.

What to Expect

I won’t over-glamorize it. You’re shoving something down your throat. It’s not super comfortable, but if you’re into getting your partner off, you get off by being able to do things others can’t, or like to feel successful in doing something that’s difficult, it will be worth it. It feels exactly like you think it would, like there is a big thing in your throat. Kind of like you’re being choked from the inside, because it’ll block off your air pipe. This is just from placement, you are not putting things down your air pipe. It feels weird to your gag reflex too, which is not used to being rubbed down and then up again. Imagine sliding a zucchini in and out of your throat. (That’s what came to mind to describe it; don’t judge).

It also is a messy process. We’ll talk about mouth positions below, but there is lots of saliva, and sometimes tears if you’re going at it rough (not because it hurts, because your eyes are watering). In my experience though, the messier it is, the hotter my partner finds it. It’s not just messy looking either. You might produce sounds you didn’t know your body could make. Nothing scary, just some gags and squelches coming from the motion and amount of saliva. All of these things are normal and part of the process! Deepthroating is not a dainty or cute act, it’s deeply sexual and it looks like it.

Getting Started

1. Find a phallic object.

2. Acquire consent (your own included!) and permission to place phallic object in your mouth.

Talk with your partner about what you think your boundaries are. If you’ve never tried to deepthroat, tell them that. There is no shame in never having choked yourself by shoving objects down your throat. If you are the object swallower, then decide what position you’re most comfortable in, (see below).

3. Assume the position.

Giving blowjobs is classically done while kneeling lower than your partner (Let’s call this position 1). But if your partner’s phallic object is super big, your mouth is small, or you’re a beginner, try lying down on your back with your head hanging down (pillows can be used to prop to correct height) so that you’re looking up at your partner and their thingy is above your face (position 2).

If you choose position 1, make sure you have room to pull your head backwards. This is the easiest way to pull back and grab a break. That way, your hands can be by your sides (or even better between your own legs) while you look up at them while they fuck your throat.

If you choose position 2, it will be hard to pull away when you’ve had too much, and your mouth will be full. This means it’s good to talk to your partner about a motion/sign to show you need a break. You can also place your hands onto your partners body, so you can give them a little push away when you need a second. This is definitely a sort of awkward position for your arms, so when you don’t need to push away (and have boobs) I suggest cupping them with your hands. Your partner will love to see them bouncing up and down with your motions.

4. Open mouth, pull lips back over teeth so you look like you don’t have any, and stick out your tongue so it’s reaching towards your chin.

Motion to your partner that you are ready for them to insert their phallic object into your mouth, have them go slowly down your throat. Once you decide how far you’re comfortable with, communicate that distance to your partner. If they’re going slowly, it should be easy to take quick breaths when they pull out. If you get comfortable and are ready for them to go faster, see how many thrusts you can take before needing a break. I’m not going to lie to you, you’re going to have some trouble breathing, but don’t freak out! Breathe through your nose and DO NOT FEEL BAD about letting your partner know you need a second. My general rule is 4-5 fast deep thrusts, then a breath, or about 8 seconds if you think better that way.

Do not try to deepthroat an entire blowjob! It’s a sexual party trick, it’s not realistic or kind to expect yourself to be able to have things shoved down your throat for long periods of time. Remember that it is a tool to keep in your blowjob giving tool box, but that blowjobs take multiple tools. Be okay with this fact! When you need a longer break, just do what you’d normally do when there is a phallic object in your face.

Tips and Tricks

Use your hands!

This tip was actually my motivation for this article. If you have to take a break from deepthroating, let the partner know by putting your hand at the base of the object so that they cannot thrust as deeply. This way you get a break and he doesn’t just keep face fucking along. Also, speaking of tools in your blowjob toolbox, hands are the MOST UNDERUSED and under appreciated tool. Use your hands! A blowjob is an interactive experience, meaning that there are multiple things going on, multiple senses being stimulated, and multiple tools being used.

Don’t be afraid to use tools that aren’t just your hands/mouth. If you’re in position two, have breasts, and don’t mind some up close and personal time with whatever is underneath your partner’s phallic object, when you’re taking a break use your hands to squeeze your boobs together, and let your partner titty fuck you. Titty fucking is a perfect way to catch your breath after deepthroating. It’s hot, and their object is all lubed up already from your mouth!

Throw that, “I have a gag reflex so I can’t” myth out the window.

This is bullshit. After having spent 7 years of my life as a practicing bulimic, my throat is trained to puke at any stimulation of the gag reflex yet, I’ve never puked on a dick. It just takes practice, some information under your belt, and trusting yourself. If you have a really active gag reflex, use a throat numbing spray to help ease the sensations.

Editor’s Note: As mentioned in the comments below, throat numbing sprays aren’t always recommended, as pain is our body’s way of telling us something is wrong, and that you should stop because you could get hurt. The numbing effect can mask pain to the point of injury, so be aware of your body’s sensations of discomfort versus pain, and be sure to stop if you experience pain.

That being said, it’s still important to have good timing.

Deep-throating will inevitably make you gag at one point or another. Therefore, you probably don’t want to engage in this activity right after a large meal/binge drinking episode. If you want to have a successful experience, wait after eating until the food/liquid feels settled in your tum tum.

Take it slow and chill, TRUST YO-SELF.

If you think, “shit, I’m going to puke”, take the object out of your mouth! On the other hand, if all you’re thinking is , “don’t puke, don’t puke”, you’re probably going to puke. Don’t stress yourself out, just take a break when you need to, there is no shame in that! I don’t care how many porn’s someone’s been in, no one swizzles on a dick for more than two minutes. It’s totally okay to need to take breaks!

Now my dear sluts, it’s time to be on your way and I promise, all will be okay. Just take your time and go slow, those are the only things you need to know. I didn’t really mean to rhyme but it happens from time to time. Communicate and make sure there’s trust, trust yourself and you’ll make them bust. Have fun and leave a comment below if you have any comments/questions.