Rimming, anilingus, tossing the salad – whatever you want to call it – has always held a bit of a controversial reputation as taboo and perhaps a bit unsanitary. But as more alternative and daring sexual behaviors come to light in the mainstream, couples have started expressing greater interest in experimenting with this form of anal pleasure.
Yet the concern over hygiene still makes this alluring and edgy activity often misunderstood and intimidating, and pushes those craving exploration reluctant to even try. It’s a real shame given that the anal region is an incredibly erogenous and sensitive area, so tapping into it could be a real game-changer for your sex life. Here’s how to give a sexy (and safe) rim job like a boss.
1. Keeping It Safe & Clean
Contrary to popular belief, rim jobs are actually relatively safe – as long as you’re responsible and sensible when engaging.
First things first, to stay safe from STI’s, make sure you and your partner have been tested recently. In addition to STIs, Hepatitis A and B can also be transmitted easily, so make sure you have both been vaccinated as well.
The area around the rectum is prime breeding ground for bacteria and STI transmission. That’s not necessarily because it’s dirty down there, “but because it’s part of the skin that connects the entire genital area, and some of those organisms may simply be moving around,” according to Dr. Dennis Fortenberry, professor of pediatrics at Indiana University School of Medicine. And, anal tissues are more likely to tear than other mucous membranes like vaginal tissue. So, it’s easily to transmit STI’s in general.
To really receive an A+ in safe sex practices (and ensure a safe, hygenic, and carefree time), consider using a dental dam or cutting a condom in half.
Looking to add some flavor? Try flavored condoms!
But beyond STI’s, hygiene is critical. Make sure the area is thoroughly washed with water and some gentle, antibacterial soap (avoid scented body washes which can irritate the anus) before engaging. Hair removal, while not necessary, may be preferable to some folks, to make sure nothing gets caught in the fuzz when your partner uses the toilet.
And finally, keep in mind your and your partner’s bathroom habits. If he’s been going too much, not enough, or their droppings aren’t solid, this could be a sign of a gastrointestinal issue you wouldn’t want to stick your nose in. The phrase “Don’t sh*t where you eat” really takes on a whole new meaning here.
Clean up before and after with these wipes.
2. From Sloppy To Sexy
Now on to the fun part: how to make this a wildly unforgettable experience for you both!
Have your partner positioned on their hands and knees – doggy style. Begin by gently caressing and kissing the region around the anus including the perineum, the area between the genitals and anus. After a little warm-up, begin licking up, down, and all around with a wide, loose tongue. Make sure to keep your lips wet and use a lot of saliva. Anuses don’t self-lubricate, so the wetter the better down there. For an even great sensation, you can softly blow on the damp skin with a hot or cool breath. Switch it up by alternating between rapidly sliding your tongue down their crack and swirling it around their whole derriere.
Once you’ve mastered rimming the outside of their anus, it’s time to try penetrating. Make your tongue pointed and slightly narrower, then begin slowly inserting it into the anus using a circular motion – how far you go depends on how comfortable you and your partner are and your own flexibility. Optionally, you can use a wet finger to penetrate their buttocks.
After the deed is done, rinse with mouthwash but don’t immediately brush your teeth or floss as you could scratch your gums and increase the risk of infection.
As we become more revolutionized sexually as a society, taboos like butt play diminish. Yet while anal sex has skyrocketed for heterosexual couples, straight men still have trouble admitting they enjoy an occasional finger in the booty (remember that whole Amber Rose fiasco?). Our generation is certainly enlightened surrounding sexuality, feminism, and LGBTIQ issues, yet clearly, there is immense room for growth. Don’t be afraid to explore this highly erogenous and pleasurable zone – people of all genders, orientations, and expressions can freely love backdoor play!
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Don’t forget to use great lube!
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