If you want to spice up your sex life, just figure out what drives your partner wild and do it! Who better to know what drives men wild than a stripper?  Though fantasies and turn-ons can be very specialized, they can also have more to do with the general desires of the male sex. Most men are visual creatures who tend to enjoy a variety of visual stimulation, but that doesn’t mean you need to invite strangers into your bedroom. Just be creative and try to turn his fantasies into reality. You can learn how to be amazing in bed, just by tuning into what excites your partner. Building intimacy in a relationship doesn’t have to be hard. Try these tried-and-true, stripper-approved, creative tips to spice things up a bit.


1. Initiate the Experience

What guys really want in a girl is the knowledge that you want him just as much as he wants you. That’s one way to build a healthy relationship. Build the sexual tension throughout the day with sexy text messages, or send him candid photos that convey your desire to be with him. It doesn’t have to be raunchy just give him just enough to build sexual tension. You’re probably taking a couple of selfies anyway, why not send him one that screams: I WANT YOU? Then, take initiative and ravage him when you finally get together. Be aggressive for a change. Men want to feel wanted, too. Tell him what parts of his body turn you on the most and go after him with the same urgency that he goes after you.



2. Reinvent Yourself

You might catch your man taking a look at that passing brunette from time to time. That’s because men like variety. You can spice things up in the bedroom by playing this to your advantage. Don’t be afraid to reinvent yourself. It could be something as simple as dying your hair another color or changing your style of makeup. Try on a sexy costume and role play. You might enjoy it just as much as he does. Create the fantasy that he’s experiencing something new and you will have him eating out of the palm of your hand.

3. Move That Body

You’ve probably seen the videos online of girls dancing, twerking, or climbing the stripper pole. Your man might lie and say he’s not interested in any of that, but men like to see those provocative dance moves. You can take a twerking dance or pole fitness class in your spare time and learn some super hot moves that will drive him up the wall. Your man won’t look twice at the strip club when he’s got a private dancer at home.


4. Stimulate His Other Senses

Although men are genetically predisposed to attach sexual desire to visual stimulation, that doesn’t mean he doesn’t get aroused by his other senses as well. There are lots of different ways to please your boyfriend. Try blindfolding your partner, and you’ll quickly put a smile on his face. Mystery and anticipation work on men just as well as women. Run a feather duster gently over his skin while you whisper in his ear. Stimulate his arousal with your scent. Challenge his imagination to figure out what body part is rubbing against his chest.

Ask him to open up about what really turns him on. Here’s the thing though: don’t ask your man to reveal his fantasies to you if you can’t handle the answer. The goal is to find out what makes him tick so that you can provide it. Don’t be judgmental; respect your partner. It’s reassuring to know that you can build intimacy in your relationship, with some good old-fashioned communication.