Many people consider giving a blowjob to be a chore, work, or quite literally a job. If you’re a beginner, giving a blowjob can intimidating at best and painful at worst. And yet blowjobs can also be incredibly enjoyable, even for the giver, if done properly – comfortably – and with enthusiasm. It doesn’t have to be all cringing and gagging while pubic hairs get caught in your teeth! Here are ten ways to give the best blowjob ever, one that he’ll be dreaming – and potentially telling his mates – about.

1. Wash up

If you’re concerned about any funky scents or tastes down there, simply hop in the shower! While you’re at it, give a trim to prevent any stray hairs. Showering can be a fun way of foreplay as well as to get clean.

If you want to get right down to business without a wash, use a warm wet towel to gently stroke your partner. It will feel great and get the job done.

2. Assume the position

Do you really want to be on your knees on a hardwood floor for 20 minutes? No way. Take a moment to get comfortable, because you’re going to here for a while. Whether you’re kneeling on a carpet, laying on the bed, or laying down with your head hanging over.… start with comfort first, then switch it up at any time!

3.  Learn your partner’s pleasure spots

Every guy is different, and what’s hot for one may be a total boner-killed for another. Find out in advance what your partner likes, and change up your routine to fit his preferences. While you’re down there, ask, “Do you like that? Should I go faster or slower? Would you like more or less hands?” You can also get feedback through his moans and movements.

4. Learn blowjob basics

Start with your hands stroking his member. First thing is to get his penis wet by licking him from base to tip, then put the whole thing in your mouth. Keep him angled toward the roof of your mouth to avoid your gag reflex. Close your lips around his shaft, being careful to avoid your teeth. Once you’ve gotten it in your mouth, start with slow strokes up and down until you feel comfortable building speed.

5. Get creative with your hands

Use your hand as if it is an extension of your lips. You can move up and down alongside your mouth, or gently twist your hand for a different sensation. Hands can be gently twisted, tugged, or gripping while you go to town with your lips and tongue. Alternate what you do with your hands and take note of the reactions you’re getting.

6. Switch it up

Variety keeps it interesting, but it also keeps it from ending! Change up the stroking, licking, and sucking to find his most pleasurable spots. Run your tongue along the underside of the shaft, flick it along the edge of the tip, or swirl it around the top of the head. You can even try taking the entire thing into your mouth – even if it’s just for a second.

7. Don’t neglect the balls

The family jewels are a huge pleasure zone that can often get ignored. Gently massage them with one hand, then move your fingers to alternate between the two balls. Delicate rubbing and gripping can be very arousing when done correctly, so start off with very little pressure and work your way up. If you’re adventurous and/or your man is well groomed, try using your mouth! Start with a gentle lick, then sucking (with immense concentration of course), and then try taking the whole ball delicately into your mouth. Watch your teeth and how hard you suck as those little babies are sensitive!

8. Explore your throat

Opening your throat isn’t for everyone, but if you’re down to challenge (and hopefully conquer) your gag reflex and give your man an experience he won’t forget, it’s definitely worth putting aside your fear and giving it a try. This party trick begins with attempting to suppress your gag reflex by pushing your tongue down and opening your jaw wide. Slowly work your man’s member towards the back of your throat, moving your hands aside. Keep him there for a second to fully enjoy the sensation your throat has to offer.

9. The tricky finish

This is a question every girl has asked herself when coming to the grand finale. It’s really controversial, and ultimately comes down to personal preference. If you are comfortable with your partner and don’t mind the brief taste, give swallowing a try. If you’re totally grossed out, offer him another option. You could spit, or tell him to finish elsewhere, like on you somewhere instead! That’s a hard offer for a guy to deny. Just be sure to have some tissues handy.

10. Make it enthusiastic

Whether you’re male or female, there’s nothing worse than hooking up with someone who views it like a chore. If you genuinely want to please your partner and show them a good time, act like it! Smile, laugh, and be enthusiastic and happy. Don’t act pouty, tired, and bored. If you’re going to be a Debbie Downer, skip the blowjob altogether and settle for movie night in your PJs.