Having a dedicated friend with benefits is almost a rite of passage for every slutty girl. A friend with benefits is different than a booty call! Booty calls are guys you barely know beyond sex, call up when you want them, have sex, and leave afterwards. A FWB is someone who you actually hangout with before and/or after the sex is done. Being friends while having sex can sometimes be tricky, confusing waters. Not all can last the test of time, and having sex may impact your friendship. But, there are ways to make your friendship and friends with benefits relationship last, without a bunch of drama.
My most long-lasting FWB relationship has being going on for five years now, and doesn’t show any signs of stopping anytime soon. I love him, but I’m not in love with him. I would prefer spending our time together getting stoned, playing Mario Kart, and having a lot of sex …and I wouldn’t change that for anything! We literally high five sometimes after sex, talk to each other about other guys and girls, and have seen each other puking face in the bar toilet at 3AM regretting that last shot. We are just friends, and don’t ever try to impress each other and it’s awesome!
Here are five fab tips to keep a friend with benefits relationship fun, light, alive, without any feelings at all because that’s how slutty girls do it! 😉
1. Make Sure You’re Already Friends
You know that guy friend of yours that you’ve always found hot, but have zero feelings for at all? Yeah, he would be a perfect FWB. You’ve probably heard him fart, seen him date other girls, and have ordered Dominos with him at 5AM after a few too many Fireball shots on a Wednesday night. You have already friend zoned each other, so adding sex to the equation would just make it more fun! You won’t get feelings for each other because you’ve already passed that stage and see him as pretty much un-dateable, but still totally fuckable.
2. Set Some Rules
Each FWB relationship should establish some rules. Do you want to know about the other people they’re sleeping with? Do you let others know you that are hooking up with each other? When does it end? Talking about things like this will make it much easier to keep the relationship working. You aren’t dating your friend with benefits, but you still need to keep open communication with each other. People can still get hurt, so be cautious and talk with each other at some point! Even if it’s between rounds of amazing sex…
3. Don’t Go on Dates or Be Too Clingy
You are not dating. You don’t have to know what they are doing at any given second of the day. Honestly, you should only really text or talk on the phone when you are planning to meet up. No one wants to have a friend with benefits telling them what to do or checking in daily. That is going into girlfriend/boyfriend territory and we do not want that. Also, you guys should not go out together alone! That is called a date. You don’t date your FWB, you have sex with him and hang out, and that’s it!
4. Keep Your Options Open
When you have a friends with benefits, you should 1000 percent still be dating other people! That’s the point of a friend with benefits, to keep your sex life alive until Mr. Right comes strolling along. Don’t think that one day you are going to wake up and fall in love with your causal hook-up, or vice versa. That isn’t suppose to happen. Keep going on dates, go out to bars, sign up for Tinder, do whatever you want to do to meet men, because odds are that your FWB is not your soul mate (unless you happen to be Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake).
5. Expect It to End
Ending a friends with benefits relationship is the end of an era. You’re growing up and moving on to real adult relationships with futures and love (yikes). Though moving on and getting into a real, loving relationship with someone who makes you want to make him the only one is something to celebrate, its still kinda sad. My FWB is one of my good friends, and I know I’ll miss sucking his dick while watching House M.D. in the background once it’s all said and done, but all good things must come to an end!
If you follow these tips and go into the relationship with an open mind, a good friends with benefits relationship is one of the best kinds of relationships. You can learn what you like in bed, experiment, and tell him when you need him to go a little bit to the left. Every girl needs to try a friend with benefits and start having some great meaningless sex with a guy you can eat pizza and drink beer with.