Dear [Sensible] Slut,

I’m trying to humiliate my cheating ex boyfriend. He has a foot fetish and he loves to smell and lick women’s socks, stockinged feet, suck on toes, and the heels of boots. He’s pathetic and deserves to be humiliated. I wanna out his foot fetish. How can I get back at him? Should reach out to influencers? Will you tweet about and mention him? His Twitter username is @[removed].

Revenge is Sweet

Dear Vengeful Ex,

I’m very sorry to hear about your ex-boyfriend.  Cheating is horrible, and no matter the circumstances it is never the answer.  I am a true believer that karma will come back to anyone who wrongs someone so terribly.

On that note, getting back at an ex through public humiliation, although “feel-good” in fantasy, rarely has good real-life results. You need to allow yourself to heal and feel better. Revenge will only continue to pour salt on your wounds, bring more attention to the wrong that’s been done, and take attention away from what really matters – your healing process and ability to move on with your head held high and dignity intact. Let fate take over instead of lowering yourself to his level. In the end, it will only bring bad karma to you, instead of rightfully where it belongs: with him. Karma will do a better job than any person could ever do.

Beyond that, shaming someone for a fetish, let alone a very common and relatively normal foot fetish, is wrong. Individuals fetishize many things. If it exists, someone is masturbating to it. As long as it’s not hurting anyone else, kinks are totally acceptable. No one deserves to be humiliated for their sexual preferences. I’m sure that you have secrets that you’d prefer not to be broadcasted on the internet for employers, parents, partners, and friends to see.

But, in one way, you may be right. Maybe he is pathetic, and maybe he does deserve it. But, if he is to be shamed and humiliated, it should be for his cheating, disrespect, and blatant disregard for your well-being, and the loyalty and trust of your relationship. Not for his love of sniffing, licking, and sucking feet.

The best revenge is to act like you don’t care and move on with your life. Nothing is sweeter than not giving a fuck. Continually seeking revenge looks desperate and sad, and worst of all shows that you care way too much. As author Chuck Palahniuk wrote, “That’s the best revenge of all: happiness. Nothing drives people crazier than seeing someone have a good fucking life.”


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