Hello Slutty Girl Problems,

I can’t seem to find an arousing gel that’s strong enough! I like the gel to really burn, which I guess most women don’t, so the products are mostly too mild. Can you recommend a really strong one? Thank you.

Hi there!

You’re actually not alone in enjoying that burning sensation. Your reason for enjoying that feeling might be similar to why some enjoy pain play. According to this article from the Huffington Post, “Stress and pain can also stimulate the serotonin and melatonin production in the brain, which transforms painful experiences into pleasure. The release of epinephrine and norepinephrine in pain can also cause a pleasurable ‘rush’.”

One ingredient that is known for causing that burning sensation is menthol. Menthol can sometimes be drying, but that might be the ingredient you’re searching for. We love recommending Wicked as a lubricant brand, and they offer a lubricant that contains menthol, Wicked Ultra Chill. You can read our review here! Note that this lube contains silicone, so you shouldn’t use it with silicone toys.

Of course, menthol is known for giving more of a cooling sensation than heat, so if it’s a hot burn you’re looking for, Wicked also sells a heating lubricant, Wicked Aqua Heat, though this one doesn’t contain menthol. Check out our review.

The first two are more lubricants than they are arousal gels. Because of this, I’d also like to recommend Jolt Clit Gel. This product does not contain menthol, but I’m going to share an excerpt from our reviewer with you:

What started as a light wave of warmth grew to a strong tingling sensation, and a period of intense heating that felt more like burning. After a little, the heating molds back down, however. If you don’t particularly enjoy gels that walk that line of pleasurable heating and uncomfortable burning, this product probably isn’t for you. Read our full review!

I think you’re looking for a product that walks that similar line between warm heat and a burning sensation! The best part about this gel is that you don’t have to go all in and buy a big bottle if you’re on the fence.

I hope that you find the arousal product that’s perfect for you!


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