It wasn’t until I started to review porn that I developed a spring in my step. But not just any old online porn – this was female-friendly erotic films. As a writer here at Slutty Girl Problems, I reviewed four films produced by Frolic Me. The website was created by a female director Anna and the majority of the story lines are written by females. Everything from the set design, cinematography and music is a professional production. Anna’s mission is to be able to offer similar like-minded adult individuals something that they find acceptable – naughty yes, sexy, stimulating and fantasy-fuelled for their own personal pleasure and enjoyment.

Anna says:

“Some men think that female friendly sex is washed down, diluted in some way, yet they are so wrong. What it does mean is that a woman’s pleasure is given more of a focus rather than less. I actually believe that seeing a woman in full erotic arousal enjoying sexual pleasure has to be a very erotic sight for any man or woman for that matter.”

Sometimes I think porn is the last frontier for feminism. But after discovering that there is a tribe of brave female directors and scriptwriters in the adult industry, I know there is hope for us horny girls. They are forging the way in a male-dominated field so let’s get behind them. Anna from Frolic Me is joined by Angie Rowntree of Sssh.com and Jacky St. James of Good Girls Like it Bad.

Erica Lust, film director, sums it up well on the Ravishly website:

“I am a sex-positive feminist. This means that consenting adults can have sex in front of the camera if they want, the same way that I think a woman can sell her body if she chooses too and the same as I think that women should be able to enjoy porn the same way that men have been doing for years. I’m a feminist and I masturbate, so what?”

Discovering the world of female friendly pornography was lust changing for me.  If you’ve never checked out erotic films before, here are five reasons you should give them a go…

1. It Gets You in the Mood

If I’m being hand on my heart honest, it can take me a little while to get into the mood. My man is often two steps ahead of me. Whether you watch porn alone or together, it can help jumpstart the party. Foreplay sorted.

2. Porn Sparks Conversation

Even with popular culture like Sex in the City and 50 Shades of Grey, it’s easy to find talking about sex hard. Having intercourse is an incredibly intimate thing to do with another person, and many of us may feel vulnerable about our bodies, especially while naked.

Watching erotic films has allowed my partner and I to casually comment, ‘Let’s try that later?’. You can say it with a cheeky smile on your face. We have been inspired to try out new positions. Of course, not all of them have worked, but we did get a few extra giggles from trying.

3. Erotica Inspires You to Try New Things

I borrowed a few books on sex from the library to improve my technique in the bedroom. What a mistake! Often the advice incorrect, biased, and old-fashioned. Reading about bedroom moves in a book is hard to imagine, especially if you don’t know the names of each part of your sexual anatomy. Likewise, it can be difficult to know whose advice to trust online. Some advice about sex can be dubious at best – in reality not many couples are of the right compatible heights to have sex standing up, or flexible enough to do some positions.

If you are just learning about exploring your body, then watching a female pleasure herself can be educational.

4. There are Confident Female Role Models

Sometimes we can’t be what we can’t see. I love watching confident women owning their sexuality. It’s super empowering. The characters in female-friendly porn are relatable and the scenarios are often doable fantasies. The acting makes the scenes feel more genuine. It’s ok if his penis slips out, the couple just keep going.

5. Female Erotica Isn’t Male-Centric

The majority of online porn is all about his needs and his wants. It’s created for a quick result and often leaves nothing to the imagination. Many popular free porn websites have a self-nominated ‘female-friendly’ category, but these are often of poor quality with no sizzle.

Regular porn leaves me disappointed. If you select the wrong video, you could be just about ready to climax and then there is a sharp change in the position or mood and it’s a total turn off. It often ends with the male finishing off on the female’s face (aka a facial), which isn’t an appealing visual for many women. Porn for men is often all about him reaching a climax (let’s call it, like it is – the cum shot). Porn like this leaves me wondering…

• Did the female even enjoy herself? She looked like she was faking it to me.
• Why does it have to end there? Couldn’t the movie finish after she has orgasmed? (I know he’s not hard anymore but, hey, there are other options).

In porn for women, you can watch an equal give and take between both partners.

I’m a convert to both paying for and watching female-friendly porn. Since watching erotic films with my partner, our jokes have become raunchier and our conversations cheekier.  I discovered that it’s okay to be a female and take charge in the bedroom. You can call me a slutty girl if you like. But I don’t care what label you want to put on me. I am a woman who enjoys sex.

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