A good quickie is great now and then, but don’t forget to stop and smell the sensual roses along the way. It’s so easy to get caught up in having quickies all the time that you forget to slow down and enjoy some quality foreplay before the big climax. 

Foreplay doesn’t have to mean you’re physically together; you can start foreplay hours before you have sex. A hot foreplay idea could be texting your partner in the morning to let them know everything you’re going to do to them that night, to build anticipation before you’re physically together again.

You can also walk past your partner while they’re making dinner and touch their butt or even wrap your arms around them and kiss their neck. These simple, intimate gestures can go a long way toward building connection and pleasure before you even hit the sheets.

Let’s be honest though, the most lustful, leg-shaking foreplay is right before sex with hands and lips and tongues and toys.

That being said, many people (particularly female-identifying people) aren’t spontaneously in the mood all that often. If you feel like you’ve fallen into a sexy slump, it might be that you’re not getting enough foreplay both during sex and in the hours approaching intimacy. Foreplay is much more important to your sex life, and even your relationship, than you might believe.

1. Foreplay Maintains Intimacy

Foreplay is very important in not only the bedroom but also in your everyday life because it helps you maintain intimacy with your partner. The day after you have sex and you’re thinking about the night before, you’re likely thinking more about the touching that led up to the sex.

Anyone can stick a penis or finger in a hole and move back and forth, but what you’re remembering most is the touch that led up to that. You’re remembering them touching you downstairs while their mouth was around your nipple or the feel of their body as they wrapped their arms around you. Or the excitement you felt when your partner pulled out a new fantasy toy from Hankey’s Toys and told you every way they planned to use it on you. Touch and Intimacy go hand in hand so touching during foreplay will maintain your intimacy with your partner. 

2. Foreplay Sets the Mood

This can be a time where you play with each other and talk so you know just what kind of mood you’re both in. There are many different sex moods; romantic, quick, slow, rough sex, kinky sex and many more. Say you’re in the mood for romantic sex that’s slow and intimate but your partner is showing signs that they’re more in the mood for rough and hard sex.

This is your chance to say something like “I’d really like for you to make love to me tonight” or “I want you to do me slow and hard tonight.” That way you’re letting your partner know that you aren’t in the mood for rough sex but you still want them. Use the opportunity during foreplay to set the mood together so you’re both on the same page when the thrusting begins. 

3. Foreplay Ensures Lubrication for Women

If you’ve ever had a dry anything shoved in your dry vagina, you know the pain is real. A dry vagina does not create the best sex for either party. Having dry sex can create tears in the tissues that are located in the vagina and can even cause swelling after sex.

A penis can get a friction burn similar to a carpet burn after having dry sex, causing both of you to have to take a few days off of sex until you’re both healed. 

While flavored lube is definitely a fun way to spice up your foreplay, it’s important to make sure your partner is really ready to go. By enjoying foreplay, it helps the woman become turned on, therefore becoming wet naturally, so that when you finally stick the dick or toy in, it’s already wet and welcoming for both parties. With proper lubrication, you can enjoy sex every day if you like without having to worry about your most intimate parts hurting or tearing. 

Foreplay is also crucial when preparing for anal – trust us! The best way to avoid the pain of getting into anal is getting and staying as turned on as possible.

4. Foreplay Leads to Better Orgasms

Have you ever masturbated and gotten really close to orgasm but you weren’t ready for it to be over so you stopped and when the sensation passed you continued masturbating and when you finally let yourself go your orgasm created waves through your whole body?

You were teasing yourself using foreplay to keep yourself on the edge for as long as possible; until you had to release your orgasm because you just couldn’t hold it any longer. The same thing happens when you’re in bed with your partner. Foreplay allows both of you to get as close as possible to orgasm without actually letting it go, causing your orgasm to build up and build up until you finally have sex and that pushes your orgasm over making it stronger and sometimes even longer.

Sometimes it’s worth slowing down to enjoy the delicacy that is your partner and get lost in the moment rather than having a two-minute quickie you might or might not be able to enjoy.

So sext your partner teasing messages all day, slap their butt or grab their crotch as you walk past and at bedtime, use the power of touch to get you both as close to the brink of orgasm without actually finishing. You might experience the most rolling, quivering orgasm of your life.