Orgasms – everybody loves them, but not everybody has them. Sexual pleasure for people with vulvas is so complicated that scientists haven’t even figured it out, so don’t feel bad if you haven’t either, let alone figured out the difference between a clitoral and a G-spot orgasm.

There are usually two types of orgasms that people with vulvas can have: vaginal orgasms and clitoral orgasms – but that’s not a widely known fact. One in three people with a vagina have trouble reaching orgasm. Isn’t that sad? Yes. 

We’ll cover what orgasms are, what it feels like to have an orgasm, and how to orgasm in many different ways. No matter what you got between your legs, this information could be crucial to add to your sexual database.


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What is An Orgasm?

Orgasms are series of muscle contractions throughout the pelvic muscles or penis, that also come with a wave of endorphins and other feel-good neurotransmitters. There may be ejaculation, but not always!

Orgasms are different for everyone. They differ in intensity, length, sensation, and emotional involvement. Scientifically speaking, for people with vaginas, orgasms are the release of all the muscles that become activated during sex. Hence, it can feel like a big satisfying wave of relief through not only your genitals, but your entire body as well.


What Does An Orgasm Feel Like?

For many people, orgasms feel like an entire body release of pleasure. When someone is about to orgasm, it may feel like you’re at the top of a hill that you REALLY want to get over, maybe even uncomfortably so. Once you’re at the top—your vision may go black, your body may shake, and you can’t think of anything except how good you feel. 

Once it’s over, many people feel no need to keep going. In fact, doing so may feel over-stimulated and painful. Instead, you’re completely relaxed and ready to go to sleep. This is due to the physical response and is related to the chemicals that are released during and after orgasm.

Here’s a bit of personal research on how other people think orgasms feel:

  • “It feels like you tickled yourself while you were peeing, and then you feel happy”
  • “It feels like pizza tastes”
  • “Like peeing in the morning, after a really good night’s sleep”
  • “It feels like the bursting of a dam that was already overflowing for 20 minutes”
  • “An overwhelming feeling where you totally lose control of your muscles, mind, and moans”
  • “It’s like sneezing and feeling the drop from the drop of a roller coaster” 


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Clitoral vs. G-Spot Orgasm

Let’s get down to the nitty gritty of the different types of orgasms, and how to orgasm. First, let’s look at how we define clitoral versus vaginal/G-spot orgasms. 

A clitoral orgasm will be defined as an orgasm that comes from external stimulation of the clitoris (regardless of whether there is penetration). A vaginal/G-spot orgasm will be defined as an orgasm that results from penetration only. So they’re two different things, right? Wrong! It depends on which part of the clitoris you stimulate.

The clitoris is actually way bigger than you thought. In fact, all penises start out as clitorises before they develop, which means there’s a lot more pleasure zones going on than just that little button at the top. It’s shaped like a wide upside down V with a hat on it’s pointy end, the clitoris spans longer than the vaginal opening. In fact, Only a fraction of the clitoris is visible which means that the rest of it is responsible for penetrative orgasms.

You know that famed G-spot? It’s actually part of your clitoris. The clit and the G-spot are actually part of the same tissue and organ— the G-spot is the back end of the clit.

The clitoris and the penis are even made of the same tissue, yet, lucky you vagina-haver, the clit has more pleasure nerves than any other organ! The clit has about 8,000 nerve endings, compared to the penis, which has about half that. Yet, if you’re lucky enough to still have a foreskin with your penis, you have way more, over like 20,000. Yeah, go thank your parents.

Here’s the point: Both orgasms are clitoral orgasms, it just depends on the part of the clitoris that is stimulated. But, even though they’re both part of the same system, they feel entirely different to the people who experience them—and are stimulated entirely differently.


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How to Have an Orgasm

Clitoral Orgasms

Clitoral orgasms are where it’s at for most people with vulvas, so lets start there. 

First of all, remember that the goal of getting off is that it all feels good, not just to get to the orgasm and be done with it. Second, find your clit. It’s right under your pubic mound where your vagina starts to split into lips. It has a little hood, which you may or you may not notice. The clitoris is little and varies in size. 

Once you’ve located your clit, decide what feels best. Rubbing the area generally with two fingers so that you aren’t directly stimulating the clit might feel good to you, or maybe you like direct stimulation. From what I know, most people like circular motions because they’re the most natural, the speed and pressure amount are up to you, so play with that. 

If it’s getting dry, you can always do what I like to call the dip and rub method, fingering yourself quickly to get more natural lube on your fingers.

Consistency is the key to a clitoral orgasm, so keep the stimulation going as long as you can handle, but take a break and play in other areas if you need to. How long it takes will completely depend on your body, so just enjoy the ride! (I love innuendos.)


G-spot orgasms

Stick with me! We’ll walk through this together. First you should pee, because the G-spot is located near the bladder and it’s just a good idea. No, you won’t pee yourself, it will just make it easier to concentrate on the one sensation. 

Now, get comfy and horny, whatever that takes for you. When you’re all warmed up and ready to go, find your G-spot! Your G-spot is located about one to two inches up on the front wall of your vagina, so when you put your fingers in, curl them forward. The G-spot is rougher than the rest of the vagina, so you’ll be able to tell texturally when you find it. Keep that curl you had in your fingers and do the “come hither” motion.  

It might feel a little achy, but it should feel so in a good way. You can use body-safe toys or fingers to keep stimulating that spot, until you reach orgasm. Remember that your body will take as long as it wants to, so don’t rush it. 

Fingers getting tired? We’ve reviewed toys for G-spot stimulation, here’s a Slutty Girl favorite for vibration or our favorite stainless steel g-spot toy!

Be patient with yourself, explore what feels good, and have fun! Everyone can orgasm, you just have to know how.