Girl on Top positions put you in control, giving you total authority over your own pleasure, and your partner. While you’re in the lead, you can control to speed, depth, angle, and overall rhythm of your motions, giving you total control of your orgasm. Meanwhile, his hands have direct access to your breasts, clitoris, and ass – allowing him to lay back and enjoy the view while his hands roam across your hot spots.

Name: Cowgirl
Type: Girl on Top

Difficulty: Adventurous
Intensity: Moderate
Speed: Slow to Steady

Perfect For: Clitoral Stimulation, G-Spot Stimulation, Anal Sex, Small Penis, Large Penis, Marathons, Beginners, Romance, Car Sex

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How to Do It

There always seems to be a lot of confusion about the proper way to work Cowgirl. But, with a little practice and a big dose of healthy confidence, this position is easy to conquer.

First, climb on top and straddle your partner while he’s lying down. Position your knees at the sides of his waist and align your own hips over his pelvis. Place your hands on the bed or his chest for support. Then, slowly lower yourself onto him, holding the base of his penis to guide it.

Rather than a fast paced thrust or bucking movement, the best way to maneuver in Cowgirl is through slow, steady rocking and grinding motions. Gently bob up and down on your knees to build momentum while lightly bucking your hips forward and backward with each movement. Usually, it’s best to tighten your hips forward as you push up on your knees, and arch your butt backward as you settle back down. Shallow thrusts will give you a lot of sensitive stimulation, and can be alternated with deeper thrusts for even more sensation. To switch it up, you can also grind from side to side or in circles and see what works for you.

In this position, you man has a great view and a lot of room to explore. Have him rub his hands across your body, stimulate your breasts, or rub your clitoris for a boost of pleasure and sensation. If you’re feeling really naughty, he can reach behind to grab or smack your ass, and even slip a finger inside to push you over the edge.

When your legs inevitably get tired, have him hold your hips to help support and guide you while he gently mirrors your movements with smaller thrusts. If his member slips out, you can easily slip it back in and continue without a second thought.

Make It Hotter

While Cowgirl position can be a bit intimidating, it gives you a lot of room to explore what sensations, speeds, and movements feel best for your body. The over the top pleasure of this position often comes from the slow grinding motions and pressure against your clitoris, but if you find it needs more of a boost, these tips can help to bring you over the edge.

First, remember that the key is confidence. You might not always love what you see in the mirror, but the last thing your partner is thinking about when he sees you full-frontal and in charge is the jiggling of your thighs or a bit of extra lovin’ on your handles. What he really sees is bouncing titties, irresistible curves, and a woman that’s confident and in control. If you’re not too confident and think you might look silly… fake it ’til you make it. The only way you’re gonna master this position is with practice and a big dose of confidence.

For more clitoral stimulation, lean forward putting your face closer to his, with your hands or elbows above his head or leaning on the headboard or wall in front of you. Not only will you be face-to-face for steamy make out sessions, but your clitoris will be lined up directly with his pubic bone for stimulation inside and out. You can even have him raise his butt or slip some pillows under him for a closer feel. This hot and intimate stance can get even steamier. As you’re leaning up against his body, have him work up his pace, getting faster and faster, supporting you with his hands as he gets deep thrusts for unparalleled pleasure.

To get more g-spot pleasure, put your arms behind you and rest your hands on the bed parallel to his knees. As you balance yourself and lean back, rock your hips back and forth to get direct g-spot stimulation. Arch your back to find the perfect sweet spot. Meanwhile, he’ll get an unforgettable view of your stretched out body while you show off your assets and get a sexy slender figure in a second.

If Cowgirl still has you feeling a bit self-conscious, you can pull your partner towards you, having him sit up to meet you while you wrap your arms (and legs) around him. Although some may say this is a different position entirely, it is a quick and easy switch of Cowgirl that will increase your intimacy while removing insecurities.

When to Use It

Cowgirl is truly the perfect position for all occasions. Whether you’re searching for clitoral stimulation or g-spot pleasure, a few alterations will push you over the edge. Girl on top is easy to accomplish in even the tightest spaces, like the car, on a couch, or the futon in your basement. Cowgirl isn’t just for vaginal sex, though… it’s perfect for anal sex, since you can control each and every motion without getting in too deep too soon.

Speaking of going deep, if your partner is large, you can position your legs wider to better accommodate his size, and control the depth and speed of his penetration so he’s not ripping you apart. On the other hand, if you man is small, you can enjoy subtle rocking movements that stimulate your clitoris. If he pops out, just slow down your technique and reposition until you get the right fit. Really, it’s a win-win no matter how you do it!

Keep in mind though, this position isn’t for everyone. It’s well suited for romance, marathons, and overall passionate sex that could be considered tantric, with slow build that works up to a steady pace, and a lot of intimate eye and body contact. If you’re into fast-paced positions with a lot of deep thrusting, this bump-and-grind position probably isn’t for you.

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