After you tried Missionary, you probably moved on to Doggy Style – the adventurous and intense position picks up the pace and gets your partner going deeper than ever before.
In Doggy Style, you are truly the receiver. Your partner is in control, determining the speed, depth, and overall rhythm of their motions. But, that doesn’t mean Doggy is only for your partner’s pleasure. You’re still in total control of your orgasm – and with a little communication, and a few adjustments, Doggy Style doesn’t have to be the fast and furious male-pleasure-oriented position many people believe it to be. Instead, it can be totally altered to fit your pleasure, as you readjust your angle and thrust your butt back into your partner to guide their motions and perfect their speed and depth.
Doggy Style is great for deep g-spot stimulation, and with some careful positioning can lead to several g-spot orgasms. It’s also fabulous for anal penetration, and is usually the first position couples try for anal sex… and one of the most pleasurable, as it opens your rear, relaxes your muscles, and places your anal and vaginal pathways closer together. Beyond that, if your partner likes butts, it gives them an incredible view from behind.
Name: Doggy Style
Type: From Behind
Difficulty: Adventurous
Intensity: Moderate to Intense
Speed: Slow, Steady, or Speedy
Perfect For: G-Spot Stimulation, Anal Sex, Small Penis, Large Penis, Quickies, Beginners, Kinky Sex, Car Sex
How to Do It
To get into Doggy, the receiver positions themself on all fours (knees and hands, or elbows and forearms). The giving partner is also on their knees, entering the receiver from behind. For balance, the giving partner can hold on to the receiver’s sides, waist, hips, or butt… or reach over to a nearby wall if you’re in tight quarters. Similarly, if your hands get a bit tired from supporting your weight, you can grip a wall in front of you for an entirely different motion and sensation.
Although this is typically a fast and deep position, it can sometimes be painful if not done with care… especially during anal sex. So, it’s very important to have open communication and trust with your partner, so you can partially control their thrusts, depth, speed, and motions with your words and actions. In this position, you may find it’s best to have short and shallow thrusts that target the first half of your vagina, rather than fast and deep strokes that might hurt your cervix. Although the cervix is pretty strong, it can get bruised from that fast, rough sex that Doggy is famous for, and continue to hurt for days after. If you’re in pain, it’s a message from your body telling you that you should stop… or at least tone it down and find a speed and depth that doesn’t cause pain.
Make It Hotter
Although this classic sex position is pretty straightforward, there are a few ways to alter it to make it even more packed with pleasure.If you’re finding this position isn’t quite hitting the right spot… or if it’s a little hard on your hands and elbows… you can alter the position of your body to fit your preferences. Try bending at the hips and bringing your chest and head closer to the bed. As you move, bend your elbows out to the sides of your head with your hands slightly in front of you. Lifting your butt and slightly arching your back will help your partner hit the perfect spots for pleasure, while giving your arms a much-needed break if you’re in this position for the long haul. With your hands free, you can even experiment with some clitoral stimulation, with either your hand or a toy, to get double the pleasure.
Doggy Style is often considered a pretty unromantic position, since it lacks eye contract. So, if you’d rather have some more intimate contact, you can achieve it with some skin-to-skin sensation. Have your partner bend at the waist to place their face closer to yours. While there, they can kiss your back, shoulders, and neck… and you can turn around to give them a few pecks for make out sessions here and there.
For another variation of skin-to-skin contact, lift your hands off the bed entirely as you and your partner adjust your knees into a bent position. This position requires a bit of knee and leg strength, but leaves both of your hands free to roam each and every one of your erogenous zones. Rather than typical fast Doggy strokes, this alteration is perfect for romance, as you slowly thrust, grind, and explore each others’ bodies.
As you’re about to hit the Big O, you might have the sensation like you have to pee – which is very typical of g-spot orgasms. Rather than tensing up and holding it in, push your pelvic and vaginal muscles outward, like you’re trying to push a baby out. This will make your vaginal walls lower, opening up your g-spot and making it more accessible. This growing sensation might feel unusual at first, but the key is to simply let go of your mind, and allow the warm pleasure to wash over your body as you orgasm.
When to Use It
Far from romantic or tantric, Doggy Style is best suited for quickies and when you’re both ready to finish fast. Hot and steamy, a few alterations can bring this simple position over the edge, proving that it truly is meant for your supreme pleasure. Your clitoris won’t be action-packed, but it’s the perfect position to stimulate the g-spot – and even better if you’re trying anal. If you’re feeling feisty, you can even kink it up with some hair pulling, boob grabbing, ass slapping, and back scratching. Even if you’re not typically into kink, there’s always something a bit animalistic that brings out our primal urges when doing it from behind.
